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But it sounds like you really like it. Don't let us strangers have too much influence.
No everyone brought me back to reality lol I honestly dont have the money. My next check is much less then I thought. Borrowing something to wear will work
From a man's point of view, any money you spend on a new dress for one date is too much. What is says about you speaks a lot louder than the dress, and its not good. IMHO, most men look way beyond the pretty wrapping to what is on the inside. If what you wear screams that you're insecure, a money waster, and superficial. Most quality men don't want that in a woman they want for a permanent relationship.
Pick out something nice you already own or buy something similar to this that you can use for multiple uses. Don't imitate the girls on Sex in the City. They're all ditzy dames.
Because you don't believe you truly deserve someone "decent". If you wanted someone decent you wouldn't be going after the men you're pursuing.
Take time for yourself, learn to love yourself, how to be alone and still be happy.
The guy Im going after now is actually a nice guy who has a job and he genuinely likes me.
yeah thats easy to say but I miss being in a relationship & having someone be nice to me. Plus Id like to have someone to talk to and I eventually want a family. You get that by dating. Im taking it slow so whats wrong with that?
The guy Im going after now is actually a nice guy who has a job and he genuinely likes me.
yeah thats easy to say but I miss being in a relationship & having someone be nice to me. Plus Id like to have someone to talk to and I eventually want a family. You get that by dating. Im taking it slow so whats wrong with that?
And Im happy I just want to date
Your definition of "slow" may be skewed. You say the guy you're dating now genuinely likes you - but you've known him for what - a couple weeks? He may certainly act like he genuinely likes you, but few women would be sure after two weeks and would hesitate to do much more than agree to another date to see what develops. It can take months to REALLY know someone...THAT'S taking it slow.
From a man's point of view, any money you spend on a new dress for one date is too much. What is says about you speaks a lot louder than the dress, and its not good. IMHO, most men look way beyond the pretty wrapping to what is on the inside. If what you wear screams that you're insecure, a money waster, and superficial. Most quality men don't want that in a woman they want for a permanent relationship.
Pick out something nice you already own or buy something similar to this that you can use for multiple uses. Don't imitate the girls on Sex in the City. They're all ditzy dames.
Oh my God. I wasn't aware the average man could look at a dress and immediately know the price of it, and then would judge the woman wearing it as if he knows what's in her bank account. Also did you click on the link? That dress is the farthest thing from what any character on Sex and the City would wear. There is absolutely nothing that says insecure or superficial about wearing a dress that she likes, that she would wear for her own pleasure when she's not even dating. Do you show up to dates in sweats and sneakers, and judge anyone wearing anything nicer as superficial?
Some of you all must be wearing black robes because you like to JUDGE. She asked about a first date in the Fashion forum and here come armchair psychiatrists telling her who to date or not date based on some past history in another thread posted somewhere that's not even relevant....
OP I know we've already established that you don't have the money, but for what it's worth I think this is a super cute style. I can't believe the people who think we should all go for the same cookie-cutter Sears/Penny's/Macys/Ross/Marshall/Nordstrom/Kohl's look that they tell us is in season every year and what we're supposed to wear based on our age. These vintage clothing sites are exploding online because women want it. Also can't believe people were immediately telling you you couldn't wear it since it's winter without knowing the temperature where you're at. I lived in NC for some years and sometimes it was 80 on Christmas. You can always throw a cute cardigan or feminine jacket over it, esp. in chilly movie theaters. Anyway spring is only 6-8 weeks away and this would be great for that time of year.
I also don't get the people saying you shouldn't be trying to impress someone on the first date. I agree with the poster who said both the man and the woman aim to impress the other. You already know and are attracted to this guy, so the date with him is a mini special occasion. It's not another mundane day of work or shopping for groceries. I may not be a man, but the majority of my circle of friends have been men, and I've done lots of listening and questioning of male friends, coworkers, and female friends' husbands and brothers over the years. A minority of women wear dresses these days (unless it's formal event) so you will make an impression for that alone. Add to the fact that it's a bright color...even more memorable. Believe me they notice. Since you truly like the dress for herself, your energy level will be 'up' anyway.
Kaphawoman - FYI the OP lives in NC where it's very cold right now, low in teens expected this weekend. Possible snow on Monday. She'd freeze in the dress.
How much someone should spend on clothing is relative. I earn good money at my job, but I wouldn't pay $99 for a dress unless it was for a formal, very special occasion. Someone else may think $99 is cheap.
OP, it doesn't sound as though you can really afford to spend that kind of money on one article of clothing. Purchase something more reasonable and save more of your paycheck. There are a lot of lovely dresses out there for less than $99.
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I wasn't aware the average man could look at a dress and immediately know the price of it, and then would judge the woman wearing it as if he knows what's in her bank account. Also did you click on the link? That dress is the farthest thing from what any character on Sex and the City would wear. There is absolutely nothing that says insecure or superficial about wearing a dress that she likes, that she would wear for her own pleasure when she's not even dating. Do you show up to dates in sweats and sneakers, and judge anyone wearing anything nicer as superficial? 
She asked about a first date in the Fashion forum and here come armchair psychiatrists telling her who to date or not date based on some past history in another thread posted somewhere that's not even relevant....
