Returning a dog I adopted to the shelter because she isn't the "right fit?" (shaking, aggressive)
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Reading your comments and need help plz. I have 2kids and we startr walking dogs at the shelter and saw one that we like a Chihuahua mix breed 6 months old, very hyper we go him yesterday and brought him home, was very excited my daughter 7 loves him and play with him but my 10 year old son don't like how he crys and barks and he always in his room. I am not happy the house is different setting I know I should give it a little time to get used to it but feeling very disappointed at my self and crying all the time. What do you think will help me..
Why did you adopt the dog? What was it that made you want a dog?
Reading your comments and need help plz. I have 2kids and we startr walking dogs at the shelter and saw one that we like a Chihuahua mix breed 6 months old, very hyper we go him yesterday and brought him home, was very excited my daughter 7 loves him and play with him but my 10 year old son don't like how he crys and barks and he always in his room. I am not happy the house is different setting I know I should give it a little time to get used to it but feeling very disappointed at my self and crying all the time. What do you think will help me..
Reading your comments and need help plz. I have 2kids and we startr walking dogs at the shelter and saw one that we like a Chihuahua mix breed 6 months old, very hyper we go him yesterday and brought him home, was very excited my daughter 7 loves him and play with him but my 10 year old son don't like how he crys and barks and he always in his room. I am not happy the house is different setting I know I should give it a little time to get used to it but feeling very disappointed at my self and crying all the time. What do you think will help me..
You do have to do some training with dogs they just do not magically fit into your home with no issues. You have to teach them what you expect in way of behavior. A shelter dog usually takes a few weeks to settle in to the point where you see what you really have. This poor little dog is no doubt so excited he can not control himself. Make your kids help in training him as it will help them all bond.
Why did you adopt the dog? What was it that made you want a dog?
I had a dog growing up and we all had a great experience with it, wanted that for my kid. Raising it in door is a lots harder than what I was used to. I am really sorry for feeling this way hes a great dog but I cant seems to be a good parent for him... would I be a bad person to take him back?
I had a dog growing up and we all had a great experience with it, wanted that for my kid. Raising it in door is a lots harder than what I was used to. I am really sorry for feeling this way hes a great dog but I cant seems to be a good parent for him... would I be a bad person to take him back?
I wasn't asking the question to intimidate you or make you feel guilty...but just to see what your expectations are.
As Dashdog noted, your pup will need to be taught what is expected of it. Some dogs never learned to play or how to play right (and with the pup that's going to be key, especially with your son who doesn't seem too engaged right now).
I would highly suggest you talk to a trainer at a pet smart, or even at the shelter where you volunteered. Ask them for help and suggestions and ways to make this better for you. And definitely get and keep your kids involved.
Just like your kids don't just learn something once and often need to be reminded, so will the pup. Training is never just one and done. Keep testing him and challenging him and he will respond.
It is entirely possible that either you and your family are not ready for a dog, or the responsibilities of a dog...and you need to discuss that with your kids and with the shelter. A dog that young can easily find another home.
You sound like you were surprised and a little unprepared for the work that was involved. Maybe a bit overwhelmed. Get advice from the folks here, get advice online, get advice from the folks at the shelter, get advice from a class at pet-smart or a community center - find as much information as you can and arm yourself with knowledge. Empower yourself with the right information and you can still have a great experience with THIS dog.
I had a dog growing up and we all had a great experience with it, wanted that for my kid. Raising it in door is a lots harder than what I was used to. I am really sorry for feeling this way hes a great dog but I cant seems to be a good parent for him... would I be a bad person to take him back?
This doesn't make you a bad person, some people just aren't good with dogs. Take the dog back. Just limit your interactions with dogs to volunteering to walk them. Dogs deserve to be loved, and your 10 year old and you sound like it is too much trouble, because dogs do require lots of attention, lots of clean up, well worth it in my opinion.....But, just not for some others. DO the right thing for the dog....find her/him a better home asap or return to the shelter immediately. And do not get another dog.
I wasn't asking the question to intimidate you or make you feel guilty...but just to see what your expectations are.
As Dashdog noted, your pup will need to be taught what is expected of it. Some dogs never learned to play or how to play right (and with the pup that's going to be key, especially with your son who doesn't seem too engaged right now).
I would highly suggest you talk to a trainer at a pet smart, or even at the shelter where you volunteered. Ask them for help and suggestions and ways to make this better for you. And definitely get and keep your kids involved.
Just like your kids don't just learn something once and often need to be reminded, so will the pup. Training is never just one and done. Keep testing him and challenging him and he will respond.
It is entirely possible that either you and your family are not ready for a dog, or the responsibilities of a dog...and you need to discuss that with your kids and with the shelter. A dog that young can easily find another home.
You sound like you were surprised and a little unprepared for the work that was involved. Maybe a bit overwhelmed. Get advice from the folks here, get advice online, get advice from the folks at the shelter, get advice from a class at pet-smart or a community center - find as much information as you can and arm yourself with knowledge. Empower yourself with the right information and you can still have a great experience with THIS dog.
Thank you so much for you feed back I really appreciate you taking your time to help me.
I took all of your suggestions and start to making my family more involved, my son is just scared, but I see him last night he really wants the puppy.
I knew it was gonna be hard taking care of a 6 month old, but was was overwhelmed. I did talk to some friends and they too helped me...
You do have to do some training with dogs they just do not magically fit into your home with no issues. You have to teach them what you expect in way of behavior. A shelter dog usually takes a few weeks to settle in to the point where you see what you really have. This poor little dog is no doubt so excited he can not control himself. Make your kids help in training him as it will help them all bond.
I realize that I went and got some support from friends that jave pets and I did take your advice and theirs and will keep tarzan, this morning I went to him in his cage and took him out and he was so excited to see me had all the kisses, I know I will take some time to get use to everything and a bit of patients on my part.
Hes such a sweet dog, I will take your advice and start making my family help in training him and will go back to the shelter and get help and tips...
Thank you for your help.
I wasn't asking the question to intimidate you or make you feel guilty...but just to see what your expectations are.
As Dashdog noted, your pup will need to be taught what is expected of it. Some dogs never learned to play or how to play right (and with the pup that's going to be key, especially with your son who doesn't seem too engaged right now).
I would highly suggest you talk to a trainer at a pet smart, or even at the shelter where you volunteered. Ask them for help and suggestions and ways to make this better for you. And definitely get and keep your kids involved.
Just like your kids don't just learn something once and often need to be reminded, so will the pup. Training is never just one and done. Keep testing him and challenging him and he will respond.
It is entirely possible that either you and your family are not ready for a dog, or the responsibilities of a dog...and you need to discuss that with your kids and with the shelter. A dog that young can easily find another home.
You sound like you were surprised and a little unprepared for the work that was involved. Maybe a bit overwhelmed. Get advice from the folks here, get advice online, get advice from the folks at the shelter, get advice from a class at pet-smart or a community center - find as much information as you can and arm yourself with knowledge. Empower yourself with the right information and you can still have a great experience with THIS dog.
I took your advice and went online and friends and will go to the shelter and get help and tips we talked to our kids and yes they do want tarzan to stay with us, will love and grow with him I think he will make us better.
Yes I was surprised and I was surprise at myself for wanting to give up.so soon.
I am going online and look for articles there's so much help.out there..
Will keep you guys posted about all our growth and development..
Most rescues want you to give back a dog that does not work out. It sounds like you should do this. I'd fell bad, too, but at least you tried.
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