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Why? How is it appropriate to call someone out by name and tell everyone what you think they did wrong. This would be unproffessional if my direct supervisor did it, much less a peer.
That's like saying "well he did it, why can't I?" That is how toddler's think. Act professionally, pull the person aside and talk to them 1:1.
Because you'd be escalating the situation in front of your peers. You'd be remembered as the confrontational hot-head, and make the other guy look better than he really was. Take it "offline" as someone already suggested.
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Why? How is it appropriate to call someone out by name and tell everyone what you think they did wrong. This would be unproffessional if my direct supervisor did it, much less a peer.
Could it have been just a poor choice of wording that he used? As in, was he just trying to communicate that the issue that was reported wasn't actually an issue and all is OK? And he used your name as a means of identifying it versus a call-out?
When people behave unprofessionally in meetings -- their behavior speaks for itself. Everyone on the call knew the guy was acting like a jerk...I'd let it go. If it happens again involve your Manager
"Let's talk about this offline to make sure we are on the same page"
Talk to that person 1:1, then send a summary of that conversation via email (as meeting notes, etc.) so that it's recorded that it was a non-issue that the two of you resolved, in case it comes up and is a problem.
100% this. It shows that you can rise above petty bickering, and then following up to make sure it’s resolved.
Yeah, I am aware at this point, it's too late to address it. Just wondering in case it happens again.
I was basically thinking I could have said something along the lines of
"I'm not a fan of having my name called out, that is not the purpose of these meetings."
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It is a very good thing you did not do anything like this.
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Originally Posted by truthbetoldd345
Why? How is it appropriate to call someone out by name and tell everyone what you think they did wrong. This would be unproffessional if my direct supervisor did it, much less a peer.
Because the wording of your above, bolded sentence is not a professional way of handling this. I know this person calling you out upset you, and you have a right to feel that way, but don't call attention to it during the group meeting. Chances are, some or all of the other employees didn't even "catch" what that person said about you, but if you bring it up as you suggested, then the other employees sure as heck would know about it/you now!
Either tell your direct supervisor what the truth really is, and/or just forget about the whole thing. Don't call attention to this with the other employees. You know you didn't do anything wrong. Leave it alone.
I agree. I have no idea how what the other guy said is supposed to be a problem. If it was, you didn't explain it very well.
Because he stated my name and then announced that I logged an issue incorrectly. That I should have known better.
I can understand what others have said about taking the higher ground and not escalating but I also don't believe in rewarding bad behavior with silence. With that in mind, I can see the value in offering to take it off line if it happens again.
Because he stated my name and then announced that I logged an issue incorrectly. That I should have known better.
I can understand what others have said about taking the higher ground and not escalating but I also don't believe in rewarding bad behavior with silence. With that in mind, I can see the value in offering to take it off line if it happens again.
You are NOT rewarding bad behavior by staying silent. You ARE dealing with it in a more appropriate setting. Have to agree that using your name specifically at that moment wouldn't be pleasant, but I would hope to get clarification in a private discussion...he may not have meant it maliciously, just relate what he saw as a fact on spur of the moment; a poorly timed faux pas. I'd try to find out what the motivation actually was in that private discussion, then deal with that. Gather good info first, then take action if justified. Who knows, maybe he realized afterward what he did and has been trying to find a way to approach you about the whole thing.
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