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When I'm at work, my whole focus is on my job. If someone tries to tell me something non-work related, I usually respond with "Don't talk to me. I'm not your friend."
My boss has talked to me about my bluntness, but I don't think it's a bad thing. Work is about getting a job done, not playing social games.
If your Boss has talked to you about it, that might be a red flag.
You can be anyway you want--however one day you might need that co worker and you have burned that bridge. I used to tell my sons you don't have to be friends with everyone, but you should be nice to everyone. You might find yourself tripped over something and on the floor with a broken ankle, or in the parking lot with a car that won't start---and those same people that your are "blunt" with will have a difficult time stopping to help you. Or you never know what your next job will be and who you will be facing.
When I'm at work, I'm only concerned with performing my job competently and efficiently. Feelings have no place at work. If you are so sensitive that someone's choice of words will turn you into an emotional wreck, you may as well stay home and collect welfare.
Funny, I haven't seen anyone in the thread mentioning becoming an "emotional wreck" due to rude folks in the workplace.
I get the frustration about chit chat when you're trying to work, but it's just as easy (and more professional and mature) to simply say "Sorry bud, really busy here", etc.
"Don't talk to me" would have gotten the point across. That the OP felt the need to add something that did, in fact, play into emotions says a lot. "You're not my friend" is a juvenile jab that has no purpose anywhere other than to make someone feel negative things.
I have no problem with people being blunt, and definitely don't think you need to make friends at work, but only certain types of undesirable people are mean on purpose.
When I'm at work, my whole focus is on my job. If someone tries to tell me something non-work related, I usually respond with "Don't talk to me. I'm not your friend."
My boss has talked to me about my bluntness, but I don't think it's a bad thing. Work is about getting a job done, not playing social games.
They want you to be personable. You don't have to like co-workers, I don't but you have to work with them and hearing about their non-work related issues may make you look like a better corporate citizen in your workplace. If your boss talked about the bluntness and you don't improve and it hurts advancement opportunities if not leave you up for a RIF, that's on you.
Funny, I haven't seen anyone in the thread mentioning becoming an "emotional wreck" due to rude folks in the workplace.
I get the frustration about chit chat when you're trying to work, but it's just as easy (and more professional and mature) to simply say "Sorry bud, really busy here", etc.
Sure. But a person can go running to Human Resources, crying that someone isn't being friendly enough with them. HR deals with this kind of stuff all the time, although they shouldn't have to. Mature, professional people should be able to cope with their emotions. The workplace is not a daycare center for adults. I find it easier to work from home, which is what I do.
most ppl would think there something wrong with the employee
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Funny, I haven't seen anyone in the thread mentioning becoming an "emotional wreck" due to rude folks in the workplace. 
