Men handling bluntness (woman, sex, call, emotionally)
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Ok, for lthe first time since I moved to my new state I've had a guy my own age ask me out. Allright first guy to ask me out since I usually call the shots. he's ok, but I kinda tell it like it is. I don't want to date, we can hang out, if I like you fine, I might just use you for sex, we can be buds, or it's not gonna fly. I always say I don't do the traditional bf/gf thing and have NO interest in it.
So, if a guy still wants to go out, is he secretely hoping to change my mind? Or be just used for sex? Curious since I really haven't had much to do with men my age in years.
I'll be blunt. I have no idea what your point is. If I was to hazard a guess.. you do not want guys to approach you? If you like to call the shots perhaps you should give better directions. That way you minimize hitting the wrong target.
Ok, for lthe first time since I moved to my new state I've had a guy my own age ask me out. Allright first guy to ask me out since I usually call the shots. he's ok, but I kinda tell it like it is. I don't want to date, we can hang out, if I like you fine, I might just use you for sex, we can be buds, or it's not gonna fly. I always say I don't do the traditional bf/gf thing and have NO interest in it.
So, if a guy still wants to go out, is he secretely hoping to change my mind? Or be just used for sex? Curious since I really haven't had much to do with men my age in years.
me-age 44
I would think you need to ask each guy you go out with that question. As long as you are up front about being emotionally unavailable and using them for sex I suspect they are willing to use you and be used similarly for sex. Why shouldn't they as that is really all that is left if you are not looking for a relationship.
Ok, for lthe first time since I moved to my new state I've had a guy my own age ask me out. Allright first guy to ask me out since I usually call the shots. he's ok, but I kinda tell it like it is. I don't want to date, we can hang out, if I like you fine, I might just use you for sex, we can be buds, or it's not gonna fly. I always say I don't do the traditional bf/gf thing and have NO interest in it.
So, if a guy still wants to go out, is he secretely hoping to change my mind? Or be just used for sex? Curious since I really haven't had much to do with men my age in years.
me-age 44
Used for sex? That's strange. With that kind of philosophy, I bet you he thinks he is using YOU for sex.
Ok, for lthe first time since I moved to my new state I've had a guy my own age ask me out. Allright first guy to ask me out since I usually call the shots. he's ok, but I kinda tell it like it is. I don't want to date, we can hang out, if I like you fine, I might just use you for sex, we can be buds, or it's not gonna fly. I always say I don't do the traditional bf/gf thing and have NO interest in it.
So, if a guy still wants to go out, is he secretely hoping to change my mind? Or be just used for sex? Curious since I really haven't had much to do with men my age in years.
OP here, would men rather hear the truth or have you blow smoke up their arse. Doesn't matter my history, cuz I know it and it's irrelevant to the simple statements. So it seems simple to me.............if you tell the man your modus operandi and he doesn't get it, do you dismiss him . Can't get any clearer than this. And yes this is what you get from me...........
OP here, would men rather hear the truth or have you blow smoke up their arse. Doesn't matter my history, cuz I know it and it's irrelevant to the simple statements. So it seems simple to me.............if you tell the man your modus operandi and he doesn't get it, do you dismiss him . Can't get any clearer than this. And yes this is what you get from me...........
I think my issue was with the way you presented it with your "Use them for sex". I'm sure if a man decided to post something like that, it would cause a huge stir.
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