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You had one guy ask you out, apparently over 40, since he was your age. And, you haven't had much to do with men your age in years. But they all want to get married in this new remote state you live in.
They have a town spokesman...One guy over 40 speaks for them all.
What I am learning from this thread is that you can't really be honest most of the time no matter how much people demand you be. I asked if it was ok for me to start out stating MY truth and got 70 plus replies from strangers stating it IS NOT OK! I only ask from my OWN immediate experience/life and my OWN questions cuz I don't know everything. Then again I see no one else does either. At least I can admit it nicely.
You're not the first female who've posted there feelings about sex, for the sake of sex. The negativity has more to do with your overall attitude from the start of the thread, you have a chip on your shoulder.
Take a recap of your posts....What honesty?....It may come as a surprise that the forum members have some reading comprehension. Who would've quessed.
What I am learning from this thread is that you can't really be honest most of the time no matter how much people demand you be. I asked if it was ok for me to start out stating MY truth and got 70 plus replies from strangers stating it IS NOT OK! I only ask from my OWN immediate experience/life and my OWN questions cuz I don't know everything. Then again I see no one else does either. At least I can admit it nicely.
Perhaps that is what happens when you seek permission from others to be yourself...if you were truly as strong as your presenting posture indicates, you wouldn't NEED our validation.
No, you don't know everything. Obviously, neither do we. What now? Where do you look next?
Ok, for lthe first time since I moved to my new state I've had a guy my own age ask me out. Allright first guy to ask me out since I usually call the shots. he's ok, but I kinda tell it like it is. I don't want to date, we can hang out, if I like you fine, I might just use you for sex, we can be buds, or it's not gonna fly. I always say I don't do the traditional bf/gf thing and have NO interest in it.
So, if a guy still wants to go out, is he secretely hoping to change my mind? Or be just used for sex? Curious since I really haven't had much to do with men my age in years.
me-age 44
I don't think that a man in his 40s who asks a woman out is necessarily looking for a great big relationship. It really depends on the man and his situation. If anything, I would think they'd go a little bit more slowly, depending on if they're divorced and how long ago the divorce was, whether they have kids, etc.
Likewise, each man will react in his own way to what you say and how you say it. Some will appreciate candor, others might be taken back by it.
Interestingly, it's only now, with a woman suggesting such an arrangement, that people are saying she shouldn't mention it...or are suggesting that she must be BSing or bluffing.
You make a good point. However, it's not the possibility that she wants this kind of arrangement that I'm having a hard time believing; it's that she supposedly isn't finding any men willing to take her up on her offer.
Rakin luv you- Wow too many people that couldn't answer a simple question and then turned attack mode on me when they don't know me. Jeez, if I "knew" I wouldn't ask. I don't have a clue how to be single and only asked if men would appreciate a blunt statement from me up front, it's what I've been doing. I personally would like honesty upfront. I don't get how so many peeps tried making me a bad person cuz I don't play like most. I'm thinking that seeking advice is a bad thing on this site all of a sudden when it was great before. I've always supported every other person here. It took one person to not understand/slam and then a lot jumped on the bandwagon. Felt like a stoning to me. And the while no one could answer the original question. Yay, bullies.
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