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I was asked by my manager to go in a tour at a vendor. I was asked today for Oct 14-17th. It’s a 5 hour drive where I have to drive with someone I don’t know. I don’t want to go but will it look bad if I decline? I said my husband might be out of town (which isn’t true) so I need to be home for the dog but I’d let him know ASAP. Ugh. I feel so upset about this.
yes it looks bad. And your excuse is not a good one - I would think to myself, "can't she get a friend or neighbor to do this?" or a kennel. Unless it's wildly unusual for you to travel or the other person is a known harasser, I can't see how you don't just suck it up as part of the job. Try to focus on the positive - maybe you will like the person, maybe it will be fun, maybe you will make a connection with someone at the vendor who will give you your next job - you never know
Was traveling in your job description? If not, it would seem to me that your boss will be disappointed, and it might hurt your chances of getting a better raise or promotion...but unless traveling was in your job description...I don't think you could get in trouble for it.
I will not go. There isn’t anyone who can watch our dogs and also one is in several meds for arthritis. I have terrible social anxiety and couldn’t handle it. But I can’t tell them that.
I thought you said the part about your husband being out of town was a lie? I am confused now. Is it the social anxiety or the dogs that are an issue? If you really don’t have anyone to take care of the dogs on such short notice, that is one thing.
If if is social anxiety and can’t perform the essential functions of the job, that’s something else entirely and I don’t think anyone is going to be all that sympathetic. I mean most of the time you travel somewhere, you are probably going to be stuck with people you don’t know— be it on a train, bus, or plane. That is just the nature of traveling.
Are you saying it is really just the dogs and you and that you made up the husband as part of your reason for not going on the trip? Why not just say that you have an extremely, sick and contagious dog to care for and you are waiting for his/her recovery before traveling anywhere. Or, a five-hour drive would make you car sick.
It sounds like a training opportunity, and sometimes travel is required for training. What is your excuse going to be next year if it is offered again? I have and will let an employee pass on a short notice training opportunity, but I keep them in the back of my head for another opportunity with more notice.
Unless the OP fixes those issues OP will never be happy with any job.
Explains a lot
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