Bully's In the Workplace (lawyer, department, management, move)
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But in the same scenario if the speaker was correct that the email was sent and the recipient accidently or purposely ignored it has the speaker done anything wrong or is it "Charlygal" who acted incompetently and is simply making a very lame excuse and pulling the new "Bully Card?"
One of the early posters here has asked for specifics regarding what some see as bullying but is getting no answers except for one who objects to working overtime.
"Here are some of the tell-tale actions of a bully.
• 1. Overlooking or belittling the target’s work and achievement.
• 2. Backhanded comments on the target’s personal life or any other aspect unrelated to work.
• 3. Excessive yelling, swearing, and/or causing public humiliation.
• 4. Withholding critical information relevant to the target’s job with/without the target’s knowledge. Not sharing opportunities that could benefit the target.
• 5. Overworking, assigning excessive work, making it impossible to complete the job.
• 6. Keeping track of/maintaining a record of the target’s mistakes and constantly bringing them up even for trivial or irrelevant reasons.
• 7. Extensive micromanagement and expressing repeated distrust in the target’s caliber.
• 8. Blaming without any justification or proof.
• 9. Isolating the target, socially and professionally.
• 10. Spreading unwanted gossip and rumors about the target."
"According to the Workplace Bullying Institute, targets are usually independent, ethical, nurturing, "'go-to' veteran workers to whom new employees turn for guidance."
"According to the Workplace Bullying Institute, targets are usually independent, ethical, nurturing, "'go-to' veteran workers to whom new employees turn for guidance."
I used that site when I was compiling my 'case'. It has a lot of good stuff. Spot on!
But in the same scenario if the speaker was correct that the email was sent and the recipient accidently or purposely ignored it has the speaker done anything wrong or is it "Charlygal" who acted incompetently and is simply making a very lame excuse and pulling the new "Bully Card?"
One of the early posters here has asked for specifics regarding what some see as bullying but is getting no answers except for one who objects to working overtime.
The point of the scenario is the speaker is lying in order to make "Charlygal" look bad. And the victim -- "Charlygal" in the scenario -- knows the bully is lying in order to make everyone conclude just what you did -- that "Charlygal" acted incompetently and was making up an excuse.
That was one illustration of a bully that answers the second part of your post. Which has been answered several times.
Agree with Nlambert, bullies can't do anything if you do not give attention to them firstly if you have to become straight forward if any person tell you any thing, whether for dress or anything else went to him and tell him you don't like this type of comments and stay away from you if he or she do it again then go to HR and tell whole matter if he do not take any action against him you can contact with your management. Last option contact with lawyers.
I spent the past six months dealing with one. I worked for a program manager who thought he could bully me into breaking company processes because he didn't like how long it took to get a specific task done. For a while I simply advised as to why the processes were in place and that I had to follow them. Eventually his antics got worse, and as they did I more firmly stood my ground. Towards the end, he was calling me at home to tell me that rumors were going around that no one liked my work. I laughed it off because my manager said the exact opposite. He eventually complained enough to upper management that he got a "promotion" in the form of being pulled from my contract and pushed into a lesser role.
Once a bully figures out that they cannot bully you, they will stop in one form or another. I guess I don't really get too concerned with a "bully" because they can't do anything to me that I will allow to negatively alter my life. You just have to be willing to stand your ground.
Your boss isn't a bully he's a control freak. There is a difference. What you experienced is not bullying.
I looked at a few comments, cant say I read them all.
First, I'm an HR Manager so I want to clarify a few things.
If an employee feels they're being bullied the first step is to address it with the person bullying.
Second step is to go to their manager, this is a management issue.
3rd step is to go to HR but I want to be clear here, bullying rarely rises to a legal status. HR at that point can discuss and advice, but there is nothing going to court over this.
I also want to respond to the person stating "HR loves to promote bullies". HR does not promote, unless within HR, the department hiring managers do.
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