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A good number of office relationships are just situational. They exist as long as people are working together. Often after leaving, the relationships quickly disoolve since they were just situational and based on daily working together in the office, and have no extension outside of the office and no interest in relating to each other after departure.
You are correct! After retiring I kept in touch with several co-workers, we would meet routinely for lunch. At first it was great, but it didn't take long before I stopped looking forward to meeting up with them because all they wanted to talk about was work. I kept trying to steer the conversation in other directions but it wasn't long before it was back to work talk again.
Fostering new friendship with many who are also retired vs. trying to sustain work-related friendships has worked better for me.
A good number of office relationships are just situational. They exist as long as people are working together. Often after leaving, the relationships quickly disoolve since they were just situational and based on daily working together in the office, and have no extension outside of the office and no interest in relating to each other after departure.
How true...After working with 300 other employees and thinking i was making friends it amazed me how most of the friendships ended the day i retired.. i did go back a year later just to see the guys but it was rather shallow and depressing endeavor watching the same people doing the same things that they'll be doing till they retire.I did kinda miss being a part of everything and i still miss the social dynamics, things were so close to being the same as when i left that It actually felt like i'd just come back from a short break..
I went back once to have lunch with my former co-workers. We had a good time. My former supervisor came up to me and asked if I would come back to work. She wasn't kidding. It made me feel proud. I was missed.
I think I will be meeting them for lunch again soon.
Gee whiz, no one asked me if I would come back to work. And they even have openings, too. Oh well, I wouldn't do it even if they asked. At least not there.
Gee whiz, no one asked me if I would come back to work. And they even have openings, too. Oh well, I wouldn't do it even if they asked. At least not there.
LOL! She had begged me not to leave too. But there was a reason. It was one of those typical corporate situations where a promotion to supervisor was given to a person who "played the game" to get her job rather than through knowledge of the work involved. She relied very heavily on me, who had been doing the work for years, to see her through. She always admitted that without me she would be lost and gave me little perks like Starbucks giftcards and reward mentions the company sponsored.
I really hadn't wanted to leave at the time, but do to a disability I had to. Still, I would have done it sooner or later just a bit later if I had my choice.
Since I last saw her, she was transferred to another department. I don't know if it was a lateral, upward or downward move but she doesn't need me any longer.
All my coworkers were also my trainees and very young. They still keep in touch via e-mail. I really like that.
Ellwood, did you relocate away from home? If so, how did you and your wife handle it? How did you make new friends?
Yes we relocated to upstate NY, 3.5 hours north from our home. We live in a rural area and met all the neighbors within a 3 mile radius, walking our golden retriever puppy. I became a volunteer fireman, we joined Patriot Guards, trained golden as a therapy dog, helped out neighbors and they in turn, helped us. Through the various organizations we met people and have been blessed to have fantastic neighbors (although there are only about 7 on our road). We also travel in our RV and spend a few months in FL Keys. RVing is a great way to meet life long friends. We RV with other couples during the year, planning 10-14 days trips.
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