Went back to See my old office buddies today ! (move, conversation, friend)
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Went back for a pot luck about a month after I retired. Most of the same crew was still there but there were actually very few I really cared to see. A couple of my employees and I had coffee or a lunch together and that was pleasant. Some email me occasionally. One, out of all of them, I saw weekly for coffee until we moved out of state. We still email several times a week and she (yes, she - my wife isn't threatened - I was her mentor.) is one of only two I would care to see if I ever go back to that state.
After 25 years of service (state) and 11 years at my last position the old saying holds true - "Out of sight, out of mind." The rest couldn't care less. Thankfully, neither could I.
Boy isn't that true, I retired in January and have gone back 3 times, the last visit 2 weeks ago. I decided that after 30 years, I no longer belong there. I felt very strange to my surprise and I feel that I will not go back any longer.
went back couple times lst year of retirement (retirement parties, get HR records), but never back to my actual office. I'm another one who "got out there just in time" since management changes have most everyone in misery. I still see a few employees/retirees every few months.
I just retired in Jan and I went back 2 weeks ago and about half of the people I worked with were (6 out of 12) gone, budget cuts strike again, got out at a good time.
We both worked for same company for approximately 25 years. My wife retired and never looked back. She tried to keep in touch with people who she mistakenly called "friend" but there was some disappointment and hurt. As OP mentioned, one person, who was like a brother to her, had been through some tough times together, socialized, attended childrens' weddings, etc. made no effort to keep in touch and eventually she stopped trying. She keeps in touch with a couple friends who are retired, but living out of state, there is no opportunity to social.
I retired and ended up consulting for over a year. It wasn't the same as before retiring and I decided life was too short to waste working. I keep in touch with a couple of friends, one of whom I join for a motorcycle trip once a year. I agree with the poster who called them "situational" friends. Same kind of "friends" you meet in church or various organizations.
The good news is, we have made new friends, real friends, in retirement and social more than we did when we were working.
Yes. The days of working all of your adult life for one employer are over. I worked at the same place for 35 years, my brother in law 41 and my wife 28. Agree with one of the earlier posters about relationships at work being situational.
I taught Jr's, Sr's & adults for 28 years. Went back a couple of times to assist my recommended replacement. Decided he would not only do the job as well as I but probably much better than I did. Never went back.
Do miss the students, they kept me young and busy staying ahead of them. LOL
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