Are people nicer (friendlier) when at Church? (churches, quote, Catholic)
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At the Church I have been going to recently, there is a large common area in the front where people stand and visit before and after the service. I find people to be incredibly friendly and nice at the church and will do their best to make small talk with you and make me feel welcome. I leave sometime and start to believe how nice the world has become. But as soon as I leave Church, the people I come in contact with bring me back to earth and are as rude, cold and indifferent to me as ever.
Is it the culture of a church that causes people to be nicer and so very friendly?. Is it peer pressure? Or is it because they are at church that makes them feel like they should be nicer and when they go home they will act like they usally are, which is many cases is not so nice. Or maybe people who go to church are just nicer human beings?
It all depends. People are people no matter where you are. I attend a very friendly church, but have been in some in the past in which you could not tell they were Christians at all. Church people should be more loving and peaceful, but we're all human and make mistakes.
The Catholic church I went to as a child here in the UK was very clicky, my mother constantly felt the unfairness of it all, unless you were of Irish origin you got no friendliness at church, were not even acknowledged.
Strange how some religious people with all their bowing and scraping to the alter still harbour the worst elements of mankind.
At the Church I have been going to recently, there is a large common area in the front where people stand and visit before and after the service. I find people to be incredibly friendly and nice at the church and will do their best to make small talk with you and make me feel welcome. I leave sometime and start to believe how nice the world has become. But as soon as I leave Church, the people I come in contact with bring me back to earth and are as rude, cold and indifferent to me as ever.
Is it the culture of a church that causes people to be nicer and so very friendly?. Is it peer pressure? Or is it because they are at church that makes them feel like they should be nicer and when they go home they will act like they usally are, which is many cases is not so nice. Or maybe people who go to church are just nicer human beings?
Please lets discuss friendliness and churchs?
I think that in church we probably are on our "best behavior!" After all, in church we are exhorted or at least expected to be loving and kind. So I think we are more cognizant to be that way while we're there. Does that make it hypocritical? I don't think so. I think it's just that we are more aware that this is they way we SHOULD be all the time. I often say that it helps me personally to go to church because I often get "an attitude adjustment" there!
That said, some churches ARE friendlier than others. And sometimes the church kinda "evolves" into it. For example, I think the church I attend is friendlier now than it was when the church first started 8 or 9 years ago.
I'm still thinking about this thread, and it came to mind that there are also wonderful people that would never set foot inside a church. They wouldn't hurt a fly. Like I said earlier, people are people. Some of the nice ones go to church and some don't. Some of the mean ones go to church, too. Hopefully the Lord is working on that with them.
I think it comes down to whether people know they're being watched, or not. In church, you know you're being observed and are on your best behavior.
It's the same with other venues, and/or organizations too. Take a bowling club for instance - same phenomena. Another analogy is living in a small city with everyone knowing what everyone else is doing, or living in the anonymity of a big city.
As soon as we're out of the public eye, our "other" side often comes out.
I think it comes down to whether people know they're being watched, or not. In church, you know you're being observed and are on your best behavior.
It's the same with other venues, and/or organizations too. Take a bowling club for instance - same phenomena. Another analogy is living in a small city with everyone knowing what everyone else is doing, or living in the anonymity of a big city.
As soon as we're out of the public eye, our "other" side often comes out.
That's true...and it is an integrity issue. Am I going to be the same person when people are watching as I am behind closed doors?
I think it comes down to whether people know they're being watched, or not. In church, you know you're being observed and are on your best behavior.
It's the same with other venues, and/or organizations too. Take a bowling club for instance - same phenomena. Another analogy is living in a small city with everyone knowing what everyone else is doing, or living in the anonymity of a big city.
As soon as we're out of the public eye, our "other" side often comes out.
Being observed by whom?? Other people? Or God? I always thought that believers felt God was watching 24/7. Kind of sickly voyeuristic if you ask me.
At the Church I have been going to recently, there is a large common area in the front where people stand and visit before and after the service. I find people to be incredibly friendly and nice at the church and will do their best to make small talk with you and make me feel welcome. I leave sometime and start to believe how nice the world has become. But as soon as I leave Church, the people I come in contact with bring me back to earth and are as rude, cold and indifferent to me as ever.
Is it the culture of a church that causes people to be nicer and so very friendly?. Is it peer pressure? Or is it because they are at church that makes them feel like they should be nicer and when they go home they will act like they usally are, which is many cases is not so nice. Or maybe people who go to church are just nicer human beings?
A CHURCH I ATTENDED A LONG TIME AGO WAS FULL OF THE NICEST PEOPLE ,BUT IT DIDN'T CARRY OVER TO THEIR DAILY ACTIVITIES, FOR MANY.THE ATTITUDE WAS GOD AND MY CHURCH FAMILY ARE HERE, SO I'LL BE A PROPER CHRISTIAN AND TOMMOROW,I'll BE ME!
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After all, in church we are exhorted or at least expected to be loving and kind. So I think we are more cognizant to be that way while we're there. Does that make it hypocritical? I don't think so. I think it's just that we are more aware that this is they way we SHOULD be all the time. I often say that it helps me personally to go to church because I often get "an attitude adjustment" there
