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Just be a gentleman and treat the women you date with respect. Don't act as though she's the love of your life on the first date. Or that whether or not this date is a success will guide your destiny. Take the date with a grain of salt: if it doesn't work out, no big - NEXT! If it does work out, that much better.
Too nice? I like to treat people nicely. Some people have taken advantage in the past, but I'm not going to change.
I do try hard on my dates. What do you mean by too hard?
Hi ny101,
You will need to redefine nice. You need to be nice contextually. If a criminal throws you a magazine and tells you to help him reload, you may be nice to the criminal, but is your result nice?
What is nice to a woman on late at night on public transportation? A man who is nice to her, or a man who insures everyone else is nice to her as well?
How can I be confident in something I have not succeeded at? Is there a way?
You have it right. I just want to raise a family like most people. I want someone to come home to after a day at work. I want the enjoyment of raising a child. I hope it's not too much to ask. I'll take your suggestions. Thank you.
I completely understand and when you start dating regularly you will wonder what all the fuss is about. Basically first dates are job interviews with cocktails. I think you just have to be confident in what you have to offer. You have to sell yourself without coming off too strong although the women sitting in front of you will probably share your views on children and such you don't want that to be the thing to scare her away.
She doesn't know you so it's your time to shine. Be honest about your likes and dislikes, be polite and ask questions. You have to like her too it's not all her call.
Relax and continue to date until you find someone you like.
It might help if you tell me more about you. what are your interests? What do you do for a living?. I understand if you don't want to reveal too much on a forum but this might help you to find women with the same type of hobbies.
Yes you have time. it's not too late. if anything it's just the beginning...
I completely understand and when you start dating regularly you will wonder what all the fuss is about. Basically first dates are job interviews with cocktails. I think you just have to be confident in what you have to offer. You have to sell yourself without coming off too strong although the women sitting in front of you will probably share your views on children and such you don't want that to be the thing to scare her away.
She doesn't know you so it's your time to shine. Be honest about your likes and dislikes, be polite and ask questions. You have to like her too it's not all her call.
Relax and continue to date until you find someone you like.
It might help if you tell me more about you. what are your interests? What do you do for a living?. I understand if you don't want to reveal too much on a forum but this might help you to find women with the same type of hobbies.
Yes you have time. it's not too late. if anything it's just the beginning...
You mean when you are already emotionally involved?
There are ways to keep a relationship sexual without having sex. Even better is to keep an acquaintance with a sexual charge to it. I will find out what I need to know. I would rather stay healthy.
People please LOL. I have never once said sleep around, don't ask questions and hope you don't get AIDS. I'm basically saying that if a guy told me on the first date he was a virgin before I've even seen the menu I would be shocked and put off. If I was told this guy was a virgin when/ if we discussed sex or when we were planning to have sex (that day) then I would discuss it and ask and answer any questions.
I have known most of my boyfriends as friends first or from work so I have known their sexual history without having to ask.
Also I personally would not give a rats ass if a guy I liked was a virgin.
People please LOL. I have never once said sleep around, don't ask questions and hope you don't get AIDS. I'm basically saying that if a guy told me on the first date he was a virgin before I've even seen the menu I would be shocked and put off. If I was told this guy was a virgin when/ if we discussed sex or when we were planning to have sex (that day) then I would discuss it and ask and answer any questions.
I have known most of my boyfriends as friends first or from work so I have known their sexual history without having to ask.
Also I personally would not give a rats ass if a guy I liked was a virgin.
How do you know a co-worker's sexual history without having to ask?
I do consider myself a geek and have a geeky job. I'm not very strong or athletic. I can't even do a pushup. I occasionally try athetic things and I usually quit in disgust. I don't have a whole lot of hobbies outside of work. I'll walk around Manhattan and sometimes go to a sporting event or to live music. I'm not a bad cook.
My dates have with 2 average looking and 1 obese woman.
How do you know a co-worker's sexual history without having to ask?
Well we used to go out socially as a group and we would meet up with their girlfriends, ex's, friends, sisters and it would come up in conversation. I don't know where you work but in London co-workers talk.
I do consider myself a geek and have a geeky job. I'm not very strong or athletic. I can't even do a pushup. I occasionally try athetic things and I usually quit in disgust. I don't have a whole lot of hobbies outside of work. I'll walk around Manhattan and sometimes go to a sporting event or to live music. I'm not a bad cook.
My dates have with 2 average looking and 1 obese woman.
Just an few ideas off the top of my head:
Sports bar
walking tours
cooking classes
language classes
yoga or something like that
I understand if your not into playing sport or the gym but you could try other areas.
If you want to stick to online dating mention these interests online it should help to narrow down the search for a suitable woman. Plus you will have more to talk about on the date.
it isn't just about likes - dislikes are important too. If you hate the opera or are not a fan of rock music you should say they are not really your thing.
People please LOL. I have never once said sleep around, don't ask questions and hope you don't get AIDS. I'm basically saying that if a guy told me on the first date he was a virgin before I've even seen the menu I would be shocked and put off. If I was told this guy was a virgin when/ if we discussed sex or when we were planning to have sex (that day) then I would discuss it and ask and answer any questions.
I have known most of my boyfriends as friends first or from work so I have known their sexual history without having to ask.
Also I personally would not give a rats ass if a guy I liked was a virgin.
Hi SparklyWonder66,
No problem. I am not accusing you of anything. You demonstrate a gwynedd principle quite nicely though.
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