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While working on my MA in Psychology, I specialized in couples therapy. I suggest finding a therapist who practices Integrative Behavioral Couples Therapy (IBCT). Research shows that it is the most effective couples therapy out there.
You may also want to look into getting a copy of the companion self-help book Reconcilable Differences written by the developers of IBCT, Jacobson and Christiansen.
Is it true that marriage counseling doesn't work for most couples? Is it because they wait until it's too late? Or is it because of the type of counseling?
Is it true that marriage counseling doesn't work for most couples? Is it because they wait until it's too late? Or is it because of the type of counseling?
Mix of factors, couples wont realise they need counseling ,because one may feel he or she is always right, they fail to acknowledge that
Next comes people who think they want to go to couseling because one partner wants, that will not work, seldom would both realise there is a problem...
Issues keep happening, even if a person goes to counseling, it may not really work, because its like going to rehab for mental diseases called anger, abuse etc,, relapse can always happen, there is no one shot solution to life....
OP thanks for putting the valuable info.
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Is it true that marriage counseling doesn't work for most couples? Is it because they wait until it's too late? Or is it because of the type of counseling?
Is it true that marriage counseling doesn't work for most couples? Is it because they wait until it's too late? Or is it because of the type of counseling?
Most couples counseling turns into some form of man bashing. Remember...most psychologists, psychiatrists, and sociologists are women, many of which are feminists. You do the math.
Most couples counseling turns into some form of man bashing. Remember...most psychologists, psychiatrists, and sociologists are women, many of which are feminists. You do the math.
A primary reason couples are in counseling is because of male on female domestic violence.
Counseling only works when both parties are willing to work through their problems. Doesn't matter what kind of counseling. If only one person has a goal in the relationship and the other wants out, forget it.
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I got mad at my wife once. More than once, but she's been mad at me, too.
I went to bed mad. I dreamed my best friend was boning her, and that made me sad. She was smiling, too. He flashed me a peace sign while it was in progress. Very surreal.
Moral of the story? If you think you don't like them, think of your best friend boning them. If this doesn't make you mad or sad, well, you've reached the end of that relationship, that's for sure.
Most couples counseling turns into some form of man bashing. Remember...most psychologists, psychiatrists, and sociologists are women, many of which are feminists. You do the math.
That is the most ridiculous thing I have heard.
There are plenty of male marriage counselors, psychologists, etc.
Maybe the problem is that many men don't believe in marriage counseling, and only agree to go to either shut their wife up or at the minimum be able to say "they tried"?
Maybe these same guys tell their wife to just go find someone and set it up, instead of being actively involved in finding someone they can both be comfortable with?
Save your money, therapy only stirs up other problems.
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