How much miscommunication can a relationship handle? (dating, marriage, women)
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How much mis-communication can a relationship handle?
The better looking he or she is, the more poor communication the other party will tolerate.
At one extreme, they want to believe the best of everything and will hear what they want to hear.
At the other extreme, they will look for any thing to confirm the low opinion that they already have of this person. However, this not a relationship.
Many threads are straight out of this paradigm. They (usually women) hang on long after its obvious to everyone else, what is really being communicated to them.
Do you think it can ruin a marriage or relationship? What are your thoughts. What would you suggest to remedy the situation?
Sure, this can make a relationship very difficult. To remedy the situation you and your partner should practice "mirroring" each other when talking. This ensures you really get what you are each trying to say.
First your partner says what they need to say, then you repeat back what you understood them to say. They will either agree you heard them, or correct what they think you didn't hear by rephrasing it. Then it's your turn - you say what you think, they repeat to you what they heard you say to verify. It can seem cumbersome at first, but this really can help you to have better communication and much less MIScommunication
It certainly can and will destroy a relationship of any kind, whether it be professional, friendships, SOs and relatives. The two suggestions above are very good methods of correcting it, but I have seen people purposefully make it difficult to communicate because they have something to hide or it's a control mechanism. If you can't find a method on your own, seek a counselor's help, because communication is what will ultimately make a relationship a success or failure.
I agree with everyone so far. I use the mirroring technique occassionally with friends who never communicate clearly. And sometimes I tend to talk over people if I'm passionate about the conversation, so I've had to teach myself to wait and wait and wait until the other person finishes speaking so I can say what I want. haha, sometimes I can be impatient but I realize that and I work on it every chance I can!!
If the person your dating or married to can't see that they need to also take a moment to communicate clearly then yes, there will always be a strain on the relationship.
First your partner says what they need to say, then you repeat back what you understood them to say. They will either agree you heard them, or correct what they think you didn't hear by rephrasing it. Then it's your turn - you say what you think, they repeat to you what they heard you say to verify. It can seem cumbersome at first, but this really can help you to have better communication and much less MIScommunication
I've read about this, but didn't think anybody really did it...
I've read about this, but didn't think anybody really did it...
Actually, that is the best method to defuse someone who tends to yell. Remain calm and repeat the point they are trying to make instead of yelling back.
My ex and I still have this issue at times. For one thing he's English and I am American. Communication is one of those things that can always be improved upon, you don't have to let it ruin your relationship. Another tip that would have helped us would be if there's more than one way to take a statement, always try to take the positive road.
Actually, that is the best method to defuse someone who tends to yell. Remain calm and repeat the point they are trying to make instead of yelling back.
Well, if somebody yells at me, I'd yell back!
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