Why do many women rush to "define" a relationship? (husband, perfect)
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Because they don't want to be some guys side piece forever. It's one thing if you have a mutually casual relationship. But if one person has different goals or is starting to have feelings for the other, they no longer want to invest more of themselves into something that isn't going anywhere.
By demanding proof, when all you offer is vague "personal experience"? By pursuing a new strawman in each of your posts?
yes, that hits a nerve.
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To claim that something is a consequence of biology -- that's a scientific statement of fact. Science imposes very particular requirements with respect to substantiation of scientific claims. You can't just pick some sexist practice and claim that it exists because it's "biological", for lack of a better justification.
I claimed a belief that it is a consequence of biology.
this is completely different than stating that it is a scientific fact. please show me where i stated that this is a scientific fact.
No, this is a reasonable assessment of your statements.
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Originally Posted by le roi
personal experience.
How is personal experience a valid basis for a scientific belief. My personal experience, for example, doesn't demonstrate that matter is made up of atoms. Is that a valid basis for me to believe that it's not?
You Going to Be an Old Maid? Single Women, Stigma, and Gender Inequality (http://www.allacademic.com/meta/p_mla_apa_research_citation/1/0/4/9/9/p104992_index.html - broken link)
Alot of presumptuous responses from the ladies. And I notice women are diff to men. A man can't work out in a few months if he will marry the girl. Not all men are like that. Infact the good ones take their time coz they have a lot to offer and lose. No wonder why gud girls end up with dead beat guys. They rushed it.
Alot of presumptuous responses from the ladies. And I notice women are diff to men. A man can't work out in a few months if he will marry the girl. Not all men are like that. Infact the good ones take their time coz they have a lot to offer and lose. No wonder why gud girls end up with dead beat guys. They rushed it.
I dated my husband for about 6 months, engaged for 2 months and got married. Worked out pretty well. We were up front on what we both wanted: marriage. If we didn't want the same thing, we would have not wasted each others time and found someone more compatible instead.
After reading many different threads on this board, thinking of my friends' love lives, and reflecting on my own experiences, I realize how many women like to define what a relationship is very early on.
Why?
Why can't you just run with something and see where it goes? To me it seems very insecure to have to need to label someone as a boyfriend or girlfriend, or to want to have a roadmap for this relationship at its early stages.
For example, I was involved with my female friend and when she stopped seeing me to date some other guy who had better long-term prospect (in her eyes at least), people rushed to say it was because I failed to make it clear for her what we "were" to each other. Some other guy on this forum had the girl do the "us" conversation after one month of dating, and his play-it-safe answer led to their eventual breakup. I mean, come on!
Look, I understand if a woman is in her 30s and looking to get married- she might not want to waste time with dead-end guys. However, I'm in my early 20s and I think romance is best when it runs off on its own and is not negotiated and defined like a contract.
Hopefully, I won't get flak for generalizing too much- I KNOW everyone is not like this.
OP , that is one of the most mature posts I have seen coming from a 20 something year old !
Why do women rush to * get the relationship status * ?
If you know what I am referring to : Facebook is a great example . They hurry to put in a relationship and then a month later : single/broken up .
And most women are the rushers of that. I hardly know a man who says OMG I have to change my FB Status ! And if he DOES it might be because SHE has asked him to change it , why isn't it change ? Are you cheating ? Hiding ? This all equals DRAMA .
The difference being : Are you the type of FB poster who shows stopped up toilet bowl pictures , pictures of half eaten sandwhiches I mean seriously its PATHETIC !
I have been in a R - LDR but I keep my page as single. I don't date anyone else but my LDR - and if anyone asks me- I might tell them but why should I put private matters on my page ? HE knows and I KNOW and thats enough.
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I mean seriously its PATHETIC !
