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My sister is divorced and has the kids except for weekend visitation but her EXhusband is spending serious money to try to get the kids from her full time. He wants total legal custody. One of his main concerns is the kids weight. The twins are 12 years old and weigh almost 250 pounds apiece.
My sister is suffering from serve depression (she is actually bipolar) and is ignoring the kids at dinner time and they are just eating all day. Maybe it is their way to deal with the stress of having a bipolar Mother. The Ex Husband says the kids weight is an indication of her being an unfit parent.
I think he's right. Until she gets her depression under control and is able to be a proper parent to her children, their father is the best parent for them to be with as he seems to have their best interests at heart.
it's hard to say because there are so many overweight children these days. it's a national epidemic. however, in this instance he may be right. however, how will the children feel being removed from their mother? that could seriously set them back and at 12 they are about to be teenagers and their removal could send them down the wrong path. is the mother or father overweight? because if they are, then the twins would have ended up that way anyway more than likely. so, if that is the case i think it would be better to have the children stay where they are right now. lots of mothers have mental problems and they manage to keep their children. maybe she should look into a better medication.
My sister is divorced and has the kids except for weekend visitation but her EXhusband is spending serious money to try to get the kids from her full time. He wants total legal custody. One of his main concerns is the kids weight. The twins are 12 years old and weigh almost 250 pounds apiece.
My sister is suffering from serve depression (she is actually bipolar) and is ignoring the kids at dinner time and they are just eating all day. Maybe it is their way to deal with the stress of having a bipolar Mother. The Ex Husband says the kids weight is an indication of her being an unfit parent.
What do you make of this?
I highly doubt this is their way of dealing with stress. If mom doesn't make dinner for them, they're probably hungry!
My sister is divorced and has the kids except for weekend visitation but her EXhusband is spending serious money to try to get the kids from her full time. He wants total legal custody. One of his main concerns is the kids weight. The twins are 12 years old and weigh almost 250 pounds apiece.
My sister is suffering from serve depression (she is actually bipolar) and is ignoring the kids at dinner time and they are just eating all day. Maybe it is their way to deal with the stress of having a bipolar Mother. The Ex Husband says the kids weight is an indication of her being an unfit parent.
What do you make of this?
Sorry, more power to the ex! These kids health is at serious risk at that weight - they are WAY too young to be dealing with such a serious problem - not to mention, living with a mom so depressed she can't parent them properly is child neglect. These kids need rescuing - kudos to your ex brother-in-law for doing the right thing. You ought to focus your energies on helping your sister get the help she needs.
The Ex is right. If my 12-year-old was tipping the scales at 250, I'd have already whisked them away. Yes, I know your sister is depressive and bipolar (Which is probably reason enough for him to have custody as it is), but this will cause long-term physical harm if this is left unchecked.
Do weight problems run in the family? Have the children's thyroid been checked? Certainly that is very heavy for such young children. Does she feed them junk all the time? If she is bipolar and is not feeding these children correctly she certainly could lose them.
I think he's right. Until she gets her depression under control and is able to be a proper parent to her children, their father is the best parent for them to be with as he seems to have their best interests at heart.
Sorry to say this considering it's your sister, but I agree with Twinkle.
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Originally Posted by artsyguy
It is against Jesus to be overweight but nobody is really perfect.
My sister is divorced and has the kids except for weekend visitation but her EXhusband is spending serious money to try to get the kids from her full time. He wants total legal custody. One of his main concerns is the kids weight. The twins are 12 years old and weigh almost 250 pounds apiece.
My sister is suffering from serve depression (she is actually bipolar) and is ignoring the kids at dinner time and they are just eating all day. Maybe it is their way to deal with the stress of having a bipolar Mother. The Ex Husband says the kids weight is an indication of her being an unfit parent.
What do you make of this?
The most important thing for children is their health. Not school, not their manners, not going to church on sundays (what ever thats suposed to be good for) but their HEALTH.
The damn kids weigh MORE THAN ME! and I'm considered a big guy for being an adult male! She is doing a crappy job as a parent and the kids should be taken even if there was no father to put them with.
They need a new, strict diet and PLENTY of exercise, if you take the car somewhere, use a dogs leash and tie the kids to the back of it! they need every extra step they can get. (ok that was a joke but u get the idea)
250 lbs at 12 years old DAMN! thats what the center weighed in my high-school football team, and he looked a bit obese...
Don't they have any bullies in their school to give them a reality check? GEEZ!
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