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Exactly and had you filed for divorce after he cheated I would say he is probably the jerk and you did nothing wrong. Yet you two were seperated and you had filed a divorce. So I say what you call "cheating" is not the problem but the result of whatever garbage was in the marriage prior to him moving out.
I'm sorry, could you please repeat that one million times?
I don't know anything about your husband or marriage, Ivory, but I can't understand how you consider it cheating after you filed for divorce.
Most people don't wait until the judge signs the papers before they start seeing others. MOST don't. I didn't and my ex didn't. Once the papers were filed and we agreed the marriage was over, we considered it done.
Of course you're entitled to hold your guy to a higher standard, but really.... I can't agree that he was cheating if you'd already given him his walking papers. You may be perfectly justified in filing for divorce, but not because he "cheated" on you.
I'm sorry, could you please repeat that one million times?
NO. I have said enough on that whole topic. I kept seeing the heading on the thread about people twisting your words every time I read her responses.
But seriously Y'all ROCK. Thanks again for helping where you could. Just to clear it up one more time. I will not be dating anyone or trying to date anyone for at least 3-6 months.
Not sure how bad my libido is going to kick my butt over this time but I can manage. I hope!
NO. I have said enough on that whole topic. I kept seeing the heading on the thread about people twisting your words every time I read her responses.
But seriously Y'all ROCK. Thanks again for helping where you could. Just to clear it up one more time. I will not be dating anyone or trying to date anyone for at least 3-6 months.
Not sure how bad my libido is going to kick my butt over this time but I can manage. I hope!
You'll be fine! Your libido is dormant at the moment, isn't it?
Last edited by DezertGirl; 03-25-2009 at 09:18 PM..
Reason: ack! misspelling!!!!!
It's cheating if you haven't ended your relationship. Moving on that soon shows that, to him, I'm easily replacable. Which is the problem. I know I don't matter. Actions speak louder than words. I don't want to be in a relationship where I don't matter and I don't matter in this one. Never did. Time to accept that.
Yup, it takes one to ruin it. Cheating manages that very well.
You and Mountain are right, divorce is the answer. He doesn't need a wife who is so awful she makes him cheat and I don't need a husband who thinks I'm so awful he cheats.
Whoa. Guess I've missed a lot of history here, but are you saying that you believe that when you are legally separated, it's "cheating" to have a relationship with someone else? I must have misunderstood....
One loving, caring, gentle giant free to a good home. I am a good earner, father, and lover. I am house broken and trained to do domestic duties. I love kids and work with a group that tries to get kids off the streets and out of gangs.(having been a gang member in my youth) I don't drink very much. I do smoke but have set 3-31 as the day I quit. I drive fast cars and push them to the limit. I am forgiving up to the point of a problem being repetitive. I listen, even when I don't like what I am hearing. I don't travel with my business. My office can be anywhere the internet is available. I have two beautiful boys that drive me to be the best man I can be. I work hard and play hard. I don't ask for much. Just rub my belly to let me know you care. Oh and if something were to come up during said belly rubbing.... rub that too......
After having a huge fight with my soon to be ex, I sat down and asked myself... Self are you really that bad?
^ Look, it's the original post! ^
I missed that part about the belly rub though. LOL!
but are you saying that you believe that when you are legally separated, it's "cheating" to have a relationship with someone else? I must have misunderstood....
Bone,
If my daughter wasn't still married to a moron....I'd introduce you to her
You will do fine....just keep working on you......
I guess this is how the phrase "Live and learn" came into being!
The general rule is 1 yr after major life changes....
Stay here with us...I think we like you
*sheepishly speaks for some of the group*
Bone,
If my daughter wasn't still married to a moron....I'd introduce you to her
You will do fine....just keep working on you......
I guess this is how the phrase "Live and learn" came into being!
The general rule is 1 yr after major life changes....
Stay here with us...I think we like you
*sheepishly speaks for some of the group*
I'm part of that group!
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