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I found out my husband's affair. He didn't tell the truth that who she is but promised to stop seeing her. Our lives almost going back to normal. But I always want to know the truth. He getting angry when I try to ask him. Now our relationship is getting worse. He seemed want to divorce. Am I doing wrong? what I should do to save our marriage?
I found out my husband's affair. He didn't tell the truth that who she is but promised to stop seeing her. Our lives almost going back to normal. But I always want to know the truth. He getting angry when I try to ask him. Now our relationship is getting worse. He seemed want to divorce. Am I doing wrong? what I should do to save our marriage?
You can't save it, if he doesn't want it, sorry. You aren't doing anything wrong, there just might not be anything you can do at all.
If he really wanted to save your marriage he would be kissing your feet and begging your forgiveness.
My advice is, try marriage counselling. Let it all out, hear both perspectives, and if it doesn't work out, don't force it. You shouldn't find yourself trying to make your husband love you in a marriage. You're gypping yourself.
Last edited by Keeper; 01-25-2009 at 09:54 AM..
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I found out my husband's affair. He didn't tell the truth that who she is but promised to stop seeing her. Our lives almost going back to normal. But I always want to know the truth. He getting angry when I try to ask him. Now our relationship is getting worse. He seemed want to divorce. Am I doing wrong? what I should do to save our marriage?
Stop asking him about her! If you are truly moving on, then you need to leave the past in the past. Why do you need to know who she is? Does it matter? Maybe knowing her identity will only cause more drama and heartache. He probably feels like you don't really want to forgive him and move on so he's preparing for it.
You have two choices:
1) Let it go and save your marriage. (including knowing who she is)
2) Keep asking and wait for him to get fed up and leave, thus ending your marriage.
If you really can't get past it without knowing who she is, your marriage is over.
Stop asking him about her! If you are truly moving on, then you need to leave the past in the past. Why do you need to know who she is? Does it matter? Maybe knowing her identity will only cause more drama and heartache. He probably feels like you don't really want to forgive him and move on so he's preparing for it.
You have two choices:
1) Let it go and save your marriage. (including knowing who she is)
2) Keep asking and wait for him to get fed up and leave, thus ending your marriage.
If you really can't get past it without knowing who she is, your marriage is over.
I found out my husband's affair. He didn't tell the truth that who she is but promised to stop seeing her. Our lives almost going back to normal. But I always want to know the truth. He getting angry when I try to ask him. Now our relationship is getting worse. He seemed want to divorce. Am I doing wrong? what I should do to save our marriage?
You cant save something if the other person dont want it to be saved?
It takes two for a marriage to work..If he wants a divorce why are you trying to force him to be with you?..Let him go and get on with your life..Why live in misery?
Stop asking him about her! If you are truly moving on, then you need to leave the past in the past. Why do you need to know who she is? Does it matter? Maybe knowing her identity will only cause more drama and heartache. He probably feels like you don't really want to forgive him and move on so he's preparing for it.
You have two choices:
1) Let it go and save your marriage. (including knowing who she is)
2) Keep asking and wait for him to get fed up and leave, thus ending your marriage.
If you really can't get past it without knowing who she is, your marriage is over.
Yes, but maybe it is someone she knows and trusts, when she shouldn't, like a close friend. I think she has the right to know in order to avoid inadvertently inviting her husband's "former" lover into their home.
Sounds like he is intent on hurting or punishing you by not coming completely clean, or, the affair hasn't really fully ended. If he can't be as honest as you need him to be in order to save the marriage and show some love and compassion towards you, its time to get out.
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