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I don't think you are overreacting at all. I think the situation you were put in was very awkward and immature on the part of your girlfriend. If I were the mother of that child, I'd have a big issue with it. You should definitely bring it up to your g/f and explain that what she did was innappropriate. Do I think you should break up with her? I don't know, that might be a bit extreme but you are definitely right to be upset.
Ok, maybe it's because I don't have kids so I don't get it, but why is the putting the kid in bed with the guy part bad? I get that the pictures were not a good idea, but what was wrong with the rest? The girlfriend was there the whole time, and nothing inappropriate was said or implied. I agree giving a strange man unsupervised access to a child is not a good idea, but while she was there? Why is this so bad? I really think fear of what 'men' can do is being blown out of all proportion here. It wasn't a sleep over or unsupervised visit. It was a few minutes of a man and a kid on the same bed at the same time with someone there playing with the child.
Unless this guy had a prior history of child abuse, then the whole thing sounds totally innocent to me.
I suppose I'll add my two cents, since I have been reading this thread since creation...
I would be a little bit weirded out by it. However, in what "position" were you two in the pictures? Was she just laying beside you? Resting her head on you? That would make a difference to me... And the clothing aspect...
Do whatever you feel is right. We weren't there, you were... so if you think dumping her is the right decision, go through with it!
Ok, maybe it's because I don't have kids so I don't get it, but why is the putting the kid in bed with the guy part bad? I get that the pictures were not a good idea, but what was wrong with the rest? The girlfriend was there the whole time, and nothing inappropriate was said or implied. I agree giving a strange man unsupervised access to a child is not a good idea, but while she was there? Why is this so bad? I really think fear of what 'men' can do is being blown out of all proportion here. It wasn't a sleep over or unsupervised visit. It was a few minutes of a man and a kid on the same bed at the same time with someone there playing with the child.
Unless this guy had a prior history of child abuse, then the whole thing sounds totally innocent to me.
Because he was half-naked, if you were a parent you probably wouldn't want your daughter in some half-naked-strange-guy's bed, (who you had only just met like the day before.)
Because he was half-naked, if you were a parent you probably wouldn't want your daughter in some half-naked-strange-guy's bed, (who you had only just met like the day before.)
Why, if it was my sister's partner and she was supervising the entire time?
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Yeah, I think you're overreacting. I understand your discomfort, but I can also see your girlfriend thinking she knows you well enough and feeling comfortable enough NOT to be thinking what you were. Maybe the little girl crawled into bed with auntie and you just happened to be there, too. Maybe your girlfriend thought it was cute seeing the two of you asleep in bed and her "family" wheels started turning, leading to the Kodak moment. I don't think it's anything to break up over, unless you're one of those CF types. Granted, it probably wasn't such a hot idea on your girlfriend's part, and I would probably be livid if I were the little girl's mom, but I actually find your behavior to be odd in this situation, not hers. You should know your girlfriend well enough at this point to know her intentions. For you to jump to such conclusions would ring some alarm bells for me if I were her.
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I don't think the OP is overreacting. Unfortunately, men have been vilified (whether for justified or unjustified reasons), and men are accused of being molesters at the drop of a hat. Six months is still early in the relationship ... and maybe it wouldn't be so bad if they had known each other longer, but I CERTAINLY would not my kid in bed with a half naked man I didn't know. Is it worth breaking up over? Probably not. Just more discretion is needed.
Because he was half-naked, if you were a parent you probably wouldn't want your daughter in some half-naked-strange-guy's bed, (who you had only just met like the day before.)
You're either naked or you're not - there's no such thing as "half-naked." Was he wearing as much clothing as if he were at a swimming pool? I'd bet so.
And he's not a strange guy - he's the SO of the mother's sister.
I think it's a total overreaction. You have to be nuts to think this is something worth breaking up over.
I agree with houstoner. It sounds like the girlfriend was imagining what it would be like to start a family and have children with the OP. She thought her boyfriend looked cute with the child, so she wanted to capture the moment with a picture.
I think it would be very unusual to be setting him up for blackmail, but I suppose anything is possible.
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