Could you build and sustain a serious LTR if you only saw each other once a week? (dating, married)
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I don't see why not. I've been in such relationships before. I've been in LDR, and I was married to a man who was gone frequently for extended periods of time (6-12 months) due to deployments.
I currently see my SO about twice a week, but there will be times where once a week is more doable. However, we text and talk daily, and some nights we FaceTime for usually no less than a couple hours.
Unless you live within 30 min. of each other and only work part time, how do people manage to see each other more than once a week if they don't live together?
Unless you live within 30 min. of each other and only work part time, how do people manage to see each other more than once a week if they don't live together?
This is what I'm wondering. I find one date every 1-2 weeks to be the norm in the early stages of a relationship, at least in my demographic, even when the people live in the same city. Most people I know work more than full time, have family, friends, other dates, travel, hobbies, activities, etc. It can be tricky enough to come up with one night per week when both people are free, let alone more than that. More frequent contact comes into play when people move in together or at least move into the same neighborhood.
After the relationship is established, sure. But not at the beginning.
Interesting. It's usually the opposite with people I know. They start out going on dates once every week or two, and as they become closer they make efforts to spend more frequent time together. I can't imagine doing the opposite (starting with lots of time together then having less contact as the relationship is established). That would seem totally backwards to me. When I'm getting closer to someone I want to see them more, not less. Also, as the relationship becomes more established we're likely not dating other people, which frees up more time to see each other, and we're likely acquiring more shared friends, so we're not spending as many separate nights with our separate friend groups. We're also more likely to do everyday things together (working out, shopping, laundry, etc.) rather than only seeing each other on "date nights". We generally become more incorporated into each others' lives as the relationship progresses.
I don't think I could handle it. After the relationship is established, sure. But not at the beginning. I tried once and it was horrible.
Honestly, were it that way in the beginning, it might well be easier than switching from regular contact in an established relationship to sporadic...ask military spouses during first deployments.
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. But it was a few years ago, and the topic still puzzles me. And has come up again today.
