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A few months ago, I was at this alumni networking event, and I confidently walked up to this lady.
Instead of going through all of the slow BS of what year we went to school, what we did, and where we lived, I just asked her what she liked to do for fun, very directly and confidently to let her know I was interested and to see if we had any common interests.
She saw what I was doing and walked away without saying a word. Lol.
Not that it would have turned out any differently if I took the gradual approach.
If a woman sees your value she will date you. If she doesn't she won't. In most cases she has made her mind up before you even ask for her number. This is why desperate men who jump through hoops are idiots.
It means if you are on a 3rd date or something and you say you thought she was beautiful the first time you saw her, and she looks at you and nods her head, she probably doesn't think the same about you.
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Originally Posted by Collateral
If a woman sees your value she will date you. If she doesn't she won't. In most cases she has made her mind up before you even ask for her number. This is why desperate men who jump through hoops are idiots.
A few months ago, I was at this alumni networking event, and I confidently walked up to this lady.
Instead of going through all of the slow BS of what year we went to school, what we did, and where we lived, I just asked her what she liked to do for fun, very directly and confidently to let her know I was interested and to see if we had any common interests.
She saw what I was doing and walked away without saying a word. Lol.
Not that it would have turned out any differently if I took the gradual approach.
There's direct, and then there's too forward. Walking up to a complete stranger and asking her what she likes to do for fun...no wonder she walked away. You didn't even say hello or introduce yourself. If you hadn't skipped the icebreaker comments, you may have had better success.
There's direct, and then there's too forward. Walking up to a complete stranger and asking her what she likes to do for fun...no wonder she walked away. You didn't even say hello or introduce yourself. If you hadn't skipped the icebreaker comments, you may have had better success.
Introducing yourself is an important step. That alone signals your interest. Since it was an alumni event, you have to follow that up with some small talk about what graduating class you were in, you major, blah blah. This helps the two of you place yourselves and your experience in relation to each other. Then from there, "So, what are you doing now?" And from there, "What do you like to do in your spare time?"
Introducing yourself is an important step. That alone signals your interest. Since it was an alumni event, you have to follow that up with some small talk about what graduating class you were in, you major, blah blah. This helps the two of you place yourselves and your experience in relation to each other. Then from there, "So, what are you doing now?" And from there, "What do you like to do in your spare time?"
See the progression?
Yes, after I did that I conversed her in a way that made it known that I thought she was attractive. And she made her response known to me in kind.
Oh. You ladies of CD. You all make it sound so easy.
Oh. You ladies of CD. You all make it sound so easy.
Granted, it's easier said than done. But it can be done. Keep practicing. In your case, you may have jumped the gun. The small talk is to give her space to start to feel comfortable with you. THEN, once she seems comfortable and is chatting away, you let her know you'd like to have a follow-up convo sometime.
When I met my wife I just talked to her about various things. Normal talk. I didn't flirt, lick my eyebrows with my tongue, or howled at the moon. She actually started flirting with me. With past gf it was about the same. I never went for the lecherous flirting or trying to act like I'm the cool guy. I'm built like a caveman, dragging knuckles and all and I'm about as suave as one trying to pick up women. I am simply myself no airs or bs. Being honest worked well for me.
These days I dont know. I talk to the single guys at work and on weekends they are pilots, doctors, one of them was special forces, hell one was a astronaut and the other was a race car driver. What was funny most girls bought the bs stories. All in the name of bagging some strange on weekends. It's pretty entertaining to. Hear the convoluted stories they have to come up with
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