Why don't women ask men out? (dating, how to, married, lover)
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I have been approached by a woman and I definitely liked it. Other guys prefer to be the pursuer. To each their own I guess.
I can count the times I have been approached by a woman, I am not one of those lucky guys who have women after them all the time but it sure feels great to me when it happens. I don't care what she looks like, just being approached by a woman makes me.feel good about myself, it doesn't mean that I have to accept the advance, but I politely decline without being rude or anything like that.
Passive is not really an attractive feature in a man.
Meh...This is a matter of individual preference more than it is a matter of gender. If you like someone, ask them out. If you don't, don't. It's that simple. Your gender and their gender aren't really relevant factors.
Men aren't aware of the way women play the mating game, it's by design.
Women need to give themselves plausible deniability by testing the waters with men they like, in such a way, that if the feelings aren't mutual they can move on without any obvious indication to any and all people present that they were ever interested in the first place, including the object of their desire.
They will be purposefully ambiguous and simply hope you approach. Typically, the more attractive the woman the less inclined she will be to show any interest, as her options are so plentiful (not just quantitatively, but also qualitatively) that she need not take any risk in damaging her reputation. Rejection to a woman is ten times more potent than a man. They are fiercely protective of their status and take great pains in maintaining it.
Any woman who is either close to or above my SMV (sexual mating value) will not make their interest obvious. The most blatant of women are usually much lower on the scale. The only exception to this is if you have well above average status in some significant way (celebrity, wealth, influence, etc.) as it relates to the woman in question.
On top of all of this, you have to filter out the women who will lead you to believe that they're interested, but are only really after some fleeting attention.
This isn't a criticism or sour grapes, just an observation. The more aware you are as a man, the better you become at seizing opportunities that present themselves. YMMV however, because not all men are created equal.
They do. I have been asked out several times in my life and at every stage. So haven't many of my friends. It's not that uncommon for a girl to ask a guy out.
Last edited by supermanpansy; 04-13-2014 at 08:26 AM..
for men it's literally a matter of knowing how to get a relationship, women don't need to know how to get a relationship since it just happens out of thin air for them
Anyone remember the Beatles. If a woman is properly motivated, she'll scream, chase them down the street and rip their clothes off.
Yeah, and the Beatles were presumed to have cash, cute relative to their time, and had fame. Take any two of those away and they are cheap broke a$$, goofy looking and a nobody. Like most of us?
for men it's literally a matter of knowing how to get a relationship, women don't need to know how to get a relationship since it just happens out of thin air for them
I don't know about thin air. They do actually have to not dress so badly that they shouldn't be seen in public, as well as have decent hygiene, and go out occasionally.
Men have to do all that and do the approaching and take the rejection.
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