Couples who argue about finances...what do they argue about?
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Never fought about money ever.
Been together 9 years, married 6.
1. Marry someone with the identical financial philosophy. Best if you are both prudent savers.
2. Always remember that you want them to be happy, comfortable, and have the things they want. Never resent what they buy just bc you don't like it or think it is stupid or it does not interest you.
3. Always endeavor to live beneath your means so stress is minimized.
Those are very good points.
I agree. Living beneath your means is especially important. Doing that while allowing for your partner to spend on the things that he/she enjoys without judgment (provided that you're doing some of the saving mentioned in number 1) pretty much keeps any arguments over money from ever occurring.
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I agree. Living beneath your means is especially important. Doing that while allowing for your partner to spend on the things that he/she enjoys without judgment (provided that you're doing some of the saving mentioned in number 1) pretty much keeps any arguments over money from ever occurring.
My last point - there are a million things to do to have fun with each other that don't involve spending oodles of money.
The other day, we just sat around and played video games. Sounds lame or juvenile, but we had a ton of fun. We play games, we talk about the forum (I like to ask her questions and she makes fun of the responses or comes up with her own), we play with our toddler, we discuss books we're reading, we go to the park, we hang out at my parents' house...
Stuff like when the bill paying checking account gets low and I'll say don't use the debit card until I get some more money in there, it's low. A couple days later there are 3 or 4 consecutive 99 cent charges from Itune song purchases with a $35 dollar overdraft fee attached to each one, I blow a stack.
I realize that this is an old thread, but a good read any time. I appreciate reading the personal experiences of some of the posters here. It is sage advice for someone who is about to get married or already there.
If a couple is not on the same page in terms of financial goals, the marriage will most likely end and the divorcees may be broke and very hurt emotionally in the end. I know way too many examples of one spouse spending the household into severe debt and sometimes it can be both spouses.
Financial goals are a team effort and if one half of the team is at the opposite end and overspending or hiding large purchases/loans, then the partnership is headed for disaster.
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