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Long story short. Ex broke off our 8 year relationship about 2 months ago stating he had no time for me because he's too busy working & being in 2 bands. I did not agree with the break up & told him I love him. He said he had to break up even if he regrets it & that I'm his best friend and he can't see me not in his life. I have not seen or spoken to him since. I even deleted my Facebook because he was liking my photos. So honestly what the hell? If he actually truly wanted to be friends I would have heard from him. I also don't want to be friend zoned. He knows I care way more than a friend & I'm not going to pretend. I also don't want to become just friends with benefits. I have completely disappeared. I need to know if he was just saying that to ease the breakup or does it mean something else? Ive heard some men say this as a means to leave the door to the relationship open? I understand that maybe overtime down the road you could possibly be friends.guys POV would be great.
Only he knows the answer to your questions and you will never find out if you don't talk to him and ask him directly.
No one here knows either of your and can only venture to guess what the reason "might" be since we are have your side of the story to offer any advice on.
Only he knows the answer to your questions and you will never find out if you don't talk to him and ask him directly.
No one here knows either of your and can only venture to guess what the reason "might" be since we are have your side of the story to offer any advice on.
Only he knows the answer to your questions and you will never find out because it's unlikely that he will ever give you the answers to your questions. Talking and asking directly didn't work for me.
When an ex says he wants to remain friends, do they really?
He either wants to remain friends to be friends or it strokes his ego to keep you around.
When an ex asked me that, it usually meant that she wanted to keep in contact with me to see how miserable I would be without her. Once I got a new girlfriend, they didn't want to talk to me anymore.
I think you need to move on. Cutting contact is good - if he's still in your life, you are going to cling to hope and obssess over what he's doing, and analyze everything he's doing. I think he was just trying to be nice or let you down easy. Maybe he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I think he will eventually find someone else. I wouldn't hold out hope. If he really loved you, and wanted to be with you, then he would.
You did the right thing. Cut off all ties until you can purge your system of the feelings you hold for him. Else you risk having your emotions toyed with. Delicate situation but I believe you are on the right track.
You did the right thing. Cut off all ties until you can purge your system of the feelings you hold for him. Else you risk having your emotions toyed with. Delicate situation but I believe you are on the right track.
^^^^^ This
My ex wanted to stay friends. As soon as I announced "guess what, I have a new boyfriend now." No phone calls, no texts, no nothing. Several days later, I received a phone call, "Hey, remember the ring I gave you, send it back because you don't deserve it anymore." ooooooooook.
You need to concentrate on your own emotional well being at this moment. Staying "friends" with this guy can only hurt you in the long run. You are going through a painful healing process and only your feeling matters at this point. Forget about him, you can find somebody more suitable for you in the future.
There's one person from my past I would have liked to remain friends with. They didn't feel the same way though so it never happened. I meant it when I said it though. We had started out as friends and I hated to lose that part of him.
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