When an ex says he wants to remain friends, do they really?

[PassTheChocolate]

Originally Posted by Ztw

Long story short. Ex broke off our 8 year relationship about 2 months ago stating he had no time for me because he's too busy working & being in 2 bands. I did not agree with the break up & told him I love him. He said he had to break up even if he regrets it & that I'm his best friend and he can't see me not in his life. I have not seen or spoken to him since. I even deleted my Facebook because he was liking my photos. So honestly what the hell? If he actually truly wanted to be friends I would have heard from him. I also don't want to be friend zoned. He knows I care way more than a friend & I'm not going to pretend. I also don't want to become just friends with benefits. I have completely disappeared. I need to know if he was just saying that to ease the breakup or does it mean something else? Ive heard some men say this as a means to leave the door to the relationship open? I understand that maybe overtime down the road you could possibly be friends.guys POV would be great.

I'm not a guy but it sounds like you made up his mind for him. You deleted your Facebook account, you don't want to be friend zoned - he doesn't have the room or the opportunity to prove he means what he is saying. You are shutting him out and you want him to chase you. That's not a game everyone wants to play. He may just feel you need the space. And you do. You can't go from being in love to being just friends overnight. You have to give yourself time to get past it.

You're obviously hurt, understandably so. But that doesn't mean he isn't sincere. Stay away from him until the pain subsides. You will see things a lot differently and can then work on being friends. There is no law that says you even have to be friends. But it's not going to happen if you're still in love with him.

[BradPiff]

From what I posted last week

Originally Posted by BradPiff

I've always stayed friendly with exes jus in case I want to go back and get sex during down periods or the new girl im sleeping with isnt as good as the women in the past. As chris rock said best, men cant move backwards sexually. Every ex girlfriend I've ever has aside from my first Ive gone back and slept with, whether they were in a relationship or not.

This is true for most men. Ladies, men like to be nice when rejecting women because they always want to leave the door open. For either

A. Sex
B. if he fails with the women he's trying to get after, he can always crawl back to you

[yankeegirl313]

Leave the book closed and move on!!