2 months since Bf of 8 yrs ended our relationship (date, how to, married)
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It's been 2 months since my ex broke off our relationship of 8 years. We've known each other for 15 yrs.
He said he had no time for me between working & being in 2 bands. He said its something he had to do even if he regrets it. He also stated he can't see me not in his life & that I'm his best friend&wants to remain friends.. I did not agree with the breakup & told him I loved him. I said you make time for people you care about regardless of how busy you are and after 8 yrs. I should be a priority. He said that's easier said then done. I asked him if there was someone else & he denied it. he said he'd rather be alone then be with me.
After the break up literally a few hours later he texted me asking me how i was doing & to be honest. ?.... This is not the first time he has done this to me. While breaking up with me he stated the last time we broke up he was miserable. ?Then that same night he was liking photos on my Facebook page. I have since deactivated my account. I have disappeared and had no contact with him at all. I am heartbroken & think about him constantly. We have the same friends and heard he is vacationing all over and just got back from Canada. (I didn't ask about him) I have been thinking about getting back on Facebook & deleting him as a friend. idk...
I feel so foolish for thinking we had something special & I feel so lost while he clearly is having the time of his life without me. I don't know how to move on. I am still in love with him.
Time will help, try and get yourself some hobbies, workout, read books, there are actually a lot of post breakup books out there that will help give you some perspective.
Hang in there and don't feel bad for feeling bad.........
You are definitely not foolish at all...the only one who was foolish is your ex (specifically, he was foolish for breaking up with you, when you and he had been together for so long, and had so much history together). It is unbelievably harsh of him IMO to just end things like that with you the way he did, especially after you and he had been together for 8 years already...
I am really sorry you are hurting so much atm Hope you feel better, and that someone even more special (and who truly deserves you) comes into your life and into your heart, very soon...
People break up all the time and it is normally very difficult. I'm not saying it's going to be easy, but you have to move on. Don't NOT do things because he might be there. If you liked being on Facebook, get back on, but stay away from him. Don't accept his friend request. Just live your life. You mentioned there had been other break ups. I'm not sure how healthy this relationship was from your post, but if I were you, I'd be moving on and hopefully you will find the real Mr. Right for you!
It does not sound like Mr. Fifteen Years was really the right guy for you!
Do you really want to be with someone who would do this to you and hurt you? More importantly, would you take him back? I've never understood women who seem to 'chase' men who will treat them badly over and over again.
It's tough to go thru, but be glad you know now his expiration date was 8 years before ya'll got married/kids/etc.
Don't feel foolish, but don't allow contact with him, either, unless you enjoy being emotionally manipulated.
You may also need to cut off/limit contact with mutual friends, at least until they get the picture that you don't require grapevine updates.
The upside of being shed of someone who doesn't respect you is that it opens the door for somebody who will. Truth.
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Hope you feel better, and that someone even more special (and who truly deserves you) comes into your life and into your heart, very soon...
