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Jasper03, I don't know. It's possible that they are still confused about how they feel about each other. It sounds like it. Not that it's good to stay in the state forever (which they are doing) but neither of them have to strength or clarity to do anything one way or another.
I don't buy the "religious reasons" because in most of these bad marriages, there is adultery and abuse and just about all the religions allow for divorce. Some might not allow for remarriage but adultery is certainly a reason to end a marriage.
I think some stay in bad marriage because they're accustomed enough to it, what scares them is living alone.
I don't think they are confused about anything. Mom says dad is around to call 911 in case she falls down and can't get up and dad just has nowhere to go really. I wish they could work out their issues but I'm out of it. I hate going over there and watching my mom take shots at him. Though he was an absolute cretin it's like kicking an old half-dead dog...pointless and it just makes the kicker look bad.
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Jasper03, I don't know. It's possible that they are still confused about how they feel about each other. It sounds like it. Not that it's good to stay in the state forever (which they are doing) but neither of them have to strength or clarity to do anything one way or another.
+1 Yep, scared people who think it's better to live together in misery than stand on their own two feet.
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I don't buy the "religious reasons" because in most of these bad marriages, there is adultery and abuse and just about all the religions allow for divorce. Some might not allow for remarriage but adultery is certainly a reason to end a marriage.
I think some stay in bad marriage because they're accustomed enough to it, what scares them is living alone.
I could never believe she would have the strength to leave the guy who happened to be my sperm donor.
It sounds to me like your father did a fine job of supporting you throughout your life. It sounds like he was very capable at making money which, I presume, kept you fed, housed, and clothed. Calling him a sperm donor just because he and your mother did not get along is not fair.
It sounds to me like your father did a fine job of supporting you throughout your life. It sounds like he was very capable at making money which, I presume, kept you fed, housed, and clothed. Calling him a sperm donor just because he and your mother did not get along is not fair.
And so what?? Am I supposed to apologise for being born? And supporting us financially doesn't clean up the neglect and psychological abuse.
My parents have been married for over 40 years and I wish they would get divorced. They have been openly expressing their contempt for each other since I was a child. They haven't slept in the same room since I was 9-years-old. They NEVER go anywhere together and they don't even like the same T.V shows much less have any kind of common interests. At first mom said she was doing it for us (though we begged her to divorce) and dad is just too lazy to file. Now, mom takes a perverse pleasure in punishing dad and holding it over his head that she really is the only person on Earth he has. Dad wasn't very nice so we don't have much to do with him, he has no friends, and lost contact with his family years ago. I still speak to him out of pity but my siblings are harder than I am. One of my sisters won't even call on b-days or holidays and we all live in the same city.
Which makes me think she prefers being married to being alone. Misery loves company sometimes.
A friend's parents supposedly had a bad marriage and the mother felt their father mistreated her the whole marriage. They never divorced though and when they were in their 80's, they would sit together in the same room and bicker about everything. If she thought the sky was blue, he would think it was green.
Then he died and she stood at his casket getting in the last word, she told him "maybe God will forgive you for how you treated me but I don't know if I will" arguing with him as they closed the casket. She missed him terribly until she also died a couple years later. She didn't like being alone. After he died, she would sit alone in silence.
She missed him terribly until she also died a couple years later. She didn't like being alone. After he died, she would sit alone in silence.
But that's typical of older people. My grandfather kept mistresses for more than 40 years and he still gets teary eyed if you mention my grandmother (she died 6 years ago).
I don't think they are confused about anything. Mom says dad is around to call 911 in case she falls down and can't get up and dad just has nowhere to go really. I wish they could work out their issues but I'm out of it. I hate going over there and watching my mom take shots at him. Though he was an absolute cretin it's like kicking an old half-dead dog...pointless and it just makes the kicker look bad.
People like that really deserve to die like dogs, no doubt. I hope that's what happens to my sperm donor.
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