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When it's blatant I can usually tell. I used to work in a branch and apparently the armored car guy had a thing for me. I never saw it. We talked sports all the time and he was very friendly and smiling. My co-worker said he's nothing like that with her when I'm not there. I thought she was crazy. Then there were times where someone covered for him and after they saw my name they would say, "Ohhh, so YOU'RE so-and-so?!" I would ask what that meant but they wouldn't say. Anyway, I see him before going on vacation and told him I'd see him in 2 weeks, as I was getting married. His expression completely changed. He left and I turned to my co-worker like wth? I got the "I told.you so". Anyway, turned out he stopped coming to my branch and the other guys that replaced him would always say "you're her". I finally asked one of the older men about him and he told me. I was blown away.
It has to be pretty blatant for me to realize someone is flirting with me and even then I don't always realize it.
Yup, same here and then I'll recall the situation and think, "...Wait, was that person flirting with me? No. Yes. Um." And I've noticed that I can sometimes come off as flirty without meaning to. Having that Southern charm in a city like this tends to leave the boys smiling, I find, so I've been needing to make my exit pretty quickly in situations.
Do you have a hard time telling sometimes if someone is being friendly or flirting?
I sure do. As recent as yesterday. Was buying some clothes. Coversation with the female worker went something like this.....
General small talk then talking about the clothes. As I was paying for the clothes, she says "What are you upto after this?, going home to relax?". Wouldn't be interested in her romantically, even if I was single.
But was left wondering whether she was hitting on me or just being friendly.
I think sometimes there is a fine line between the two.
Is there any doubt. She wanted to come to you your place and **** your brains out!
Or, she was a dult and didn't know the message she was conveying.
When it's blatant I can usually tell. I used to work in a branch and apparently the armored car guy had a thing for me. I never saw it. We talked sports all the time and he was very friendly and smiling. My co-worker said he's nothing like that with her when I'm not there. I thought she was crazy. Then there were times where someone covered for him and after they saw my name they would say, "Ohhh, so YOU'RE so-and-so?!" I would ask what that meant but they wouldn't say. Anyway, I see him before going on vacation and told him I'd see him in 2 weeks, as I was getting married. His expression completely changed. He left and I turned to my co-worker like wth? I got the "I told.you so". Anyway, turned out he stopped coming to my branch and the other guys that replaced him would always say "you're her". I finally asked one of the older men about him and he told me. I was blown away.
Haha. Poor guy. Well not really... you were involved and he didn't step up...
Do you have a hard time telling sometimes if someone is being friendly or flirting?
I sure do. As recent as yesterday. Was buying some clothes. Coversation with the female worker went something like this.....
General small talk then talking about the clothes. As I was paying for the clothes, she says "What are you upto after this?, going home to relax?". Wouldn't be interested in her romantically, even if I was single.
But was left wondering whether she was hitting on me or just being friendly.
I think sometimes there is a fine line between the two.
It would have been cool if you said "I'm going home to fantasize about you". No, wait, that's over the top. Sometimes, you can't say what is real, at least until you get to know them. So you've got ot ease into it. Listen, she was bored at their mundane job and they were so bored they wer inquiring about you mundane job. Can you imaging how bored that really is??? Come on. So you say something like "Well, if I had someone like you in my life.... blah blah blah." Do what you do.
The point being; Stop sittiing on the fence and get into the game. They're arent' any reruns here. This is the time so you got to play it if you you want to play on.
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