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I'm a bit older now so the people I know socially tend to be a bit older too, I'm talking in the 40-55 range.
One thing the guys especially all seem to have in common is - they're looking for love.
They don't want one night stands. They want a partner.
The guys I know all have good jobs, plenty of money, some have even been married before, done the wife-and-kids thing (who they are STILL paying for) and yet they are still floating aimlessly and unhappily around the world looking for love.
The women I know are gun-shy. Precious few of them want to pair up and settle down...most are either out of a long-term relationship that put them off for good, or have other issues that make them wary or unavailable, like sick elderly parents or demanding careers or kids.
It's like when you get older, the roles are reversed. All youngish girls and women seem to want is a boyfriend, and the guys all just want to play around. Fast forward 30 years and it's literally the other way around.
What's it like where you live?
Where I live, men in the 40-55 range who say they can't find love are usually looking for it with women in the 20-35 range. I suspect that is part of their problem.
I'm a bit older now so the people I know socially tend to be a bit older too, I'm talking in the 40-55 range.
One thing the guys especially all seem to have in common is - they're looking for love.
They don't want one night stands. They want a partner.
The guys I know all have good jobs, plenty of money, some have even been married before, done the wife-and-kids thing (who they are STILL paying for) and yet they are still floating aimlessly and unhappily around the world looking for love.
The women I know are gun-shy. Precious few of them want to pair up and settle down...most are either out of a long-term relationship that put them off for good, or have other issues that make them wary or unavailable, like sick elderly parents or demanding careers or kids.
It's like when you get older, the roles are reversed. All youngish girls and women seem to want is a boyfriend, and the guys all just want to play around. Fast forward 30 years and it's literally the other way around.
What's it like where you live?
Since you are single, why dont you date one of these eligible bachelors?
In fact, the 'nerds' I know get the most action. Don't even get me started on the whiny hipsters...they seem to have a different woman each week!
There are plenty of women in their 20s who sow their wild oats also regardless of education level (don't get me started on the women from Georgetown I had who proudly shouted "don't worry I'm on birth control, let's go!).
There are some guys and girls who come across great potential partners and brush them off, and then complain about the lack of good quality later. Those who used their hoses and collection plates then end up with "shriveled up syndrome" and want to find Mr/Ms perfect then.
The beta women and beta men can smell it from miles away and want no part, and rightfully so.
Where I live, men in the 40-55 range who say they can't find love are usually looking for it with women in the 20-35 range. I suspect that is part of their problem.
That is exactly their problem and I see it all the time (I live a half hour south of Chicago). I am 41 and online I mostly seemed to attract the 55+ men and the men my age specified 25-30 or so. They claim it's because of kids, but it's their fault just as much as mine that I waited to find someone for that. Besides there is no guarantee I can't have kids and no guarantee the younger women or the men can either. I'll never understand why a man in his 60s or above wouldn't honestly think I'd date him.
There are plenty of women in their 20s who sow their wild oats also regardless of education level (don't get me started on the women from Georgetown I had who proudly shouted "don't worry I'm on birth control, let's go!).
There are some guys and girls who come across great potential partners and brush them off, and then complain about the lack of good quality later. Those who used their hoses and collection plates then end up with "shriveled up syndrome" and want to find Mr/Ms perfect then.
The beta women and beta men can smell it from miles away and want no part, and rightfully so.
Aren't you the one for pithy observations! Your posts are getting more intriguing every day.
That is exactly their problem and I see it all the time (I live a half hour south of Chicago). I am 41 and online I mostly seemed to attract the 55+ men and the men my age specified 25-30 or so. They claim it's because of kids, but it's their fault just as much as mine that I waited to find someone for that. Besides there is no guarantee I can't have kids and no guarantee the younger women or the men can either. I'll never understand why a man in his 60s or above wouldn't honestly think I'd date him.
This is why online dating tends to invite women to lie about their age. It's the only way for them to get with guys their own age.
This is why online dating tends to invite women to lie about their age. It's the only way for them to get with guys their own age.
I was told when I first started online exactly for this reason to lie. I didnt believe at first that this happened until I saw guy after guy my age rejecting. If I do it again I am definitely lying by 10 years or so.
I was told when I first started online exactly for this reason to lie. I didnt believe at first that this happened until I saw guy after guy my age rejecting. If I do it again I am definitely lying by 10 years or so.
What's that site for ppl who are more marriage-minded? I don't think there's as much of a tendency for guys to want much younger women on that one. eHarmony. You might check it out.
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