Friends adding person you are dating or SO to facebook or phone # exchanges [vice versa]

[BKSnook]

Originally Posted by recuerdeme

Am I the only one that thinks this is not right... or that feels slightly uneasy about it?

Dating situation... aka don't know if the relationship is going to stand the test of time...
I mean sure we can all hang out but I don't want my friends talking to the guy I'm dating or vice versa when I'm not around. I like to try and control the flow of information.

Dating situation... aka established relationship
Still feel the same way.

Significant Other
Hmm I still feel the same way.

I mean I've had 3 stalkers and just a general uneasy feeling about imprudent people asking things they should not and blissfully-ignorant people responding when they should not.

Thoughts?

You should ALWAYS protect your best interests. I've also been there done that... and then been screwed over when one of my best buddies started sleeping with my GF. There should always be boundaries. Sometimes you have to create them for others...

[recuerdeme]

How would deleting your facebook account solve the issue of your friends & SO becoming facebook friends.
You'd just really be out of the loop.

[strawberrykiki]

I think it's natural for your friends to become friends with your SO over time. I'd be put off if the first time my friend met my SO they FB friended each other or exchanged numbers, but after a few meetings...so what? I even have the phone number of my best friend's boyfriend...gasp. I don't call or text him ever, but I like having his number in case I need to get in touch with my friend and she doesn't answer her phone. Big deal. I trust my friends 100% or they wouldn't be my friends.

[caesarsgirl79]

I don't add people I am just dating to my Facebook. It would have to get to the relationship status or close to even consider it. I have a few ex's on my FB though.

[the minx]

Why do people even add romantic interests to fb? That's a great way to start drama.

Even men I've dated exclusively I don't add. Opens up a can of worms, IMO.