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I'm curious what the breakdown is of men saying "yes" vs. women saying "yes" to this question. I think men may understand the intentions better.
I usually assume a guy has ulterior motives when giving compliments about looks, though there are exceptions. IMO It is much more common for women to compliment the looks of others (men or women) without having other intentions.
Yes, I often assume if a guy is complimenting me on my looks then they are hitting on me. But there are exceptions of course. I've heard things like "I really like your haircut/shoes/earrings, I wish my gf/wife would wear something like that." Then they will either tell their gf/wife about it or try to buy the item for them.
But I've also heard "You've got such beautiful eyes" (at work, from married men) and that just doesn't sit well with me. I do not think it is appropriate for the guy to look deeply into my eyes and say such things. If my SO talked that way to a woman, it would be a major problem.
I would not take a compliment alone to mean that a guy likes me because i think some people are just nice. There would have to be several compliments and body language like you described looking into my eyes while complimenting me before I would see more.
I would not take a compliment alone to mean that a guy likes me because i think some people are just nice. There would have to be several compliments and body language like you described looking into my eyes while complimenting me before I would see more.
I don't think many heterosexual men go out of their way to compliment a young woman on her looks (e.g. saying she looks "cute") unless there is an intention (even if slight) to flirt/hit on the girl. I don't think they're wired that way.
I have spent years working with thousands of men in a male-dominated industry and have been approached this way many times (e.g. the "innocent" compliment on your looks). I have had to change my strategy as I used to think the guy was "just being nice." But invariably, it was an attempt to start something.
If you are too nice/flirty back with the compliment, you will start getting more compliments, and then small "innocent" gifts (e.g. coffee, books). If it keeps escalating, it is perceived you have "led them on" even if you just thought it was a friend relationship. I think it's best to shut things down right at the beginning. I also think it is disrespectful to a partner to be overly nice to a guy who is flirting with you.
As I said, I'd like to hear specifically from a heterosexual guy on how he goes about innocently complimenting a girl by calling her "cute" without having intentions of flirting/hitting on the girl.
I'm sure there is some level as interest. As far as being "nice" is concerned i'm sure the OP won't go on another guys' picture and compliment how "cute" he looks just to be "nice".
Agree, are you a guy? Women need to start thinking like a guy thinks. Working with all men has helped me in this respect.
I don't think many heterosexual men go out of their way to compliment a young woman on her looks (e.g. saying she looks "cute") unless there is an intention (even if slight) to flirt/hit on the girl. I don't think they're wired that way.
I have spent years working with thousands of men in a male-dominated industry and have been approached this way many times (e.g. the "innocent" compliment on your looks). I have had to change my strategy as I used to think the guy was "just being nice." But invariably, it was an attempt to start something.
If you are too nice/flirty back with the compliment, you will start getting more compliments, and then small "innocent" gifts (e.g. coffee, books). If it keeps escalating, it is perceived you have "led them on" even if you just thought it was a friend relationship. I think it's best to shut things down right at the beginning. I also think it is disrespectful to a partner to be overly nice to a guy who is flirting with you.
As I said, I'd like to hear specifically from a heterosexual guy on how he goes about innocently complimenting a girl by calling her "cute" without having intentions of flirting/hitting on the girl.
Yeah I said if it turns into several compliments and body language and I would include gift giving in there too, then yeah I would know.
Yeah I said if it turns into several compliments and body language and I would include gift giving too then yeah I would know then.
But a woman can usually figure this all out by the first compliment of "You're cute" and address it before it needs to escalate to the higher levels of flirtation and disappointment. Nip it in the bud right away I say.
my wife gets compliments quite a bit from working in a mostly male dominated industry.
shes makes it a point to let them know in this way since most males will not go out of there way to drop compliments if they are not already thinking something else.
Rubbish. I compliment women and men i know if they're looking good. Just because i pay a compliment it doesn't mean i want anything.
But a woman can usually figure this all out by the first compliment of "You're cute" and address it before it needs to escalate to the higher levels of flirtation and disappointment. Nip it in the bud right away I say.
I don't think so. Guys are not allowed to compliment their mothers, sisters and daughters? Not all guys are alike.
I don't think so. Guys are not allowed to compliment their mothers, sisters and daughters?
Yes, but calling a non-relative "cute" is, obviously, not the same thing. It is flirting.
Heterosexual men on this thread - Please explain how you innocently go about telling a non-relative women "You're Cute" without it being at least mildly flirtatious.
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