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Originally Posted by robertjohnson
Pardon me but do you want children to be less than they can be?
To earn less? To be less happy and emotionally stable? To have a higher divorce rate? jail - drugs - suicide See where I'm going with this?
Children from single or unmarried families suffer in EVERY measurable acheavment catagory in spite of your extensive research. Perhaps you should rethink your position.
And pick up a dictionary and look up the proper use of capitol letters.
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Funny because I know a lot kids from unmarried couples and they all seem to be well adjusted, intelligent, well educated and do not seem to have suffered any detrimental effects.
I live in Oxford where unmarried couples with children are incredibly common in the wealthy Academic community and I can assure you that they seem to achieve remarkably well both academically , economically, socially and emotionally.
The poorer parts of Oxford who also have unmarried OR married parents do a lot worse. I wonder what link there could be ?
Traditional" families seem to follow a lot of those socio-economic factors.
Intelligent, educated, well adjusted adults will mostly engender likewise children whatever their marriage status. The statistics you are looking at do not tell a whole story such as other circumstances affecting children's emotional and intellectual development. Socio economic factors for example.
Marriage is not a miracle cure. It will not make your child into a genius or an entrepeneur. What spurs kids on in life is stability, love, respect, a good environment and this can come in many forms. It can come within marriage and from outside it. I can come with single parents , Gay parents or Grand-Parents raising you, it can come from Foster parents or adoptive parents ,married, unmarried etc.... Love and stability oddly enough come from PEOPLE not pieces of paper.
I know many single parents whose kids are exceptionally bright, well adjusted kids. Their parents' marital status is NOT the factor which will change you from a stable successful kids into a failure.
I was brought up by a single Father and still managed to go to an Ivy League college and do pretty well.
Could it have been because my Father had certain values he inculcated into me, because of discipline, love, and also the fact that I had access to some of the best education there was, that I was nurtured intellectually and challenged, pushed and nudged into the right direction ? I think that was a pretty big part of it. Not because he was married or single.
I can assure you that had my parents stayed together I would have turned out vastly differently because my mother would have been about the most destabilising influence there was.
Do not look at statistics and try to make things fit your narrow definition of what success is . Numbers do not a whole picture make.
There are so many factors behind statistics that to try and generalise is simply intellectually disingenuous.
And if you are going to correct people about their use of "capitol" letters, perhaps you yourself could do with a dictionary as it is "capit
Al" not "capit
Ol" unless you mean the letters are from the seat of State Legislature ?
Pot, Kettle anyone ? Mock and deride someone when your own backyard needs a little more scrutiny... How very hypocritical of you. Not a typo either I suggest considering how far the "A" is from the "O" on a QWERTY board.
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I am sure you have achieved far more than I ever could , being raised by a single parent having made me ripe for a life of crime, jail, drugs, sexual promiscuity, a life of academic and intellectual failure, emotional maladjustment and presumably appalling spelling and use of capital letters as well as economic downfall ,perhaps we should compare notes ?
"Tooddle Pip", I have a joint to smoke , a bottle of Bourbon to finish and a Granny to rob.
Don't believe everything you think, it's dangerous .
PS: Feel free to correct my spelling, grammar and use of capital letters if it amuses you. One needs a hobby I guess.