Girl/Guys, do you value morals when it comes to a relationship?? (dates, women)

[ladyturquoise]

Because it seems to me that the more baggage you have in your life, the more men/women you attract ...and sadly the better person you are, the less lucky you are in the love arena... please tell me if i am wrong...can't find a half decent person in the world anymore...but is sadly true I want to be positive , but sometimes it gets pretty difficult to believe in people anymore...your thoughts are really appreciated ..thanks

[Yzette]

Honestly? The whole "value morals" thing is going to turn a lot of people off. It makes you sound holier than thou, and that's just not going to attract people.

For one thing, "morals" is a subjective term. Look at it this way: By making the statement that "the more baggage you have in your life, the more men/women you attract ...and sadly the better person you are, the less lucky you are in the love arena," you've pretty much told everyone here who is in a happy relationship or who attracts a lot of dates that they have baggage while simultaneously putting yourself above them as a "better person." You've also indirectly implied they have no morals.

Lady, you make a lot of posts on here that paint you as self-righteous. You might not realize how you sound, but if I'm picking up on it, I would wager that the men you meet do, too.

[Djuna]

I agree with Avienne.

When you put yourself on the moral high ground and appear to view anyone with different values than yours as 'bad or baggage-laden', it is a turn off.

Everyone has to have standards obviously, but if your standards are extreme, then your choices will be limited. I have found that men and women who have unreasonable expectations of others have a much harder time attracting a mate.

[Jay100]

I do. I think morals are a turn on. Also, a moral woman is more likely to remain faithful and honest.

[ladyturquoise]

Sorry guys if i sound that way, it was not my intention...

[Currency Pair Crocodile]

Hey, I'm a half decent dude.

I'm also a half indecent dude You must meet Mrs Chamataka and ask her why

[ladyturquoise]

I know there are a lot of happy couples that both are great people, I don't want you guys to think that I think someone has to be perfect , because we are humans and nobody is perfect. The reason of my post was because of a very close family member that actually has gone through a lot of suffering, her being a great person, she has been pretty unlucky...I don't want to generalize , I only look for your insights... I am very observant, and in no way better than anyone...just asking for opinions ...that's all
sorry if i hurt anyone's feelings...I just like a bit of controversy...to make the forums a bit more interesting

[smel]

I don't think having morals or not having them is the reason that someone is having trouble finding someone to have a relationship with. If you come across as believing you are better than others, that is a definite turnoff. Or it is possible there are other reasons you are having relationship problems? You show your beliefs, whatever they are, by how you live your life. You don't have to keep proclaiming them to people. That comes across as rigid and judgemental. Having standards if fine, but don't expect everyone to live up to your ideal. You need to relax a little. You can still live your life however you choose, but give people a chance before you write them off due to their lack of "morals". People are human and they are not infallible...just like you will more than likely fall off of your pedestal some day.

[MsRiss7383]

I certainly value morals. My morals. Which means someone who isn't religious, believes in women's rights, isn't a republican, and is honest faithful and treats people kindly. My point being that you should look for someone who shares your personal values, whatever they may be. When you settle for less you are going to get treated in a way that you don't agree with

[ladyturquoise]

I agree with you MsRiss