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He thinks he is in charge because you reply to his messages.
If you would have replied "ok" and left it at that, he would have not have acted like a d***.
Don't entertain him anymore and find some someone else... or don't - but drop the communication with him and make him look like what he has been trying to be... a d***.
I am just curious. I have been dating this guy on and off for about 1 year now (he's 42 and I am 39) and he recently contacted me after about 6 weeks after we split up. He sends me a text message at 1:30 a.m. and asks "Where are you". The conversation starts off good and then he starts saying he was seeing this 27 yo bartender for about a month and it didn't work out because he had to wait til after 2 a.m. to see her. Then proceeds to tell me he was out on a date with this 25 yo. a few nights ago. He asks me if I want to see him and I tell him it is probably not a good idea (as he constantly tells me all these young girls he sleeps with) as I am tired of playing his stupid games. He then tells me I know he is the man of my dreams and would marry him if he asked me. I tell him again probably not a good idea and he says ok this is the second time I've turned him down. I send him a text of "good nite" and he says "It could have been". He then sends me a text message at 12:40 a.m. the following day to tell me sorry that he didn't get back to me that his girlfriend came home. WTF. Why does he do this stupid s*it. Like I said he's 42 5'10 about 220 lbs and he's not drop dead gorgeous. My friends constantly ask what the hell I see in him and to be honest I couldn't tell you. But I don't understand why he has to lie about it. Does he think it makes me jealous, cause it doesn't or that it will make me want to run and be with him? As he should know by now it just pushes me away. Oh and btw he only seems to date girls under 30.
Any input guys of what he is really thinking?
He's thinking he's the sh*t, and that you should be thankful he calls you sometimes. Please do yourself a favor and tell him to leave you alone (but in much harsher words). I can't believe you are still thinking about, let alone, talking to this douche.
I am just curious. I have been dating this guy on and off for about 1 year now (he's 42 and I am 39) and he recently contacted me after about 6 weeks after we split up. He sends me a text message at 1:30 a.m. and asks "Where are you". The conversation starts off good and then he starts saying he was seeing this 27 yo bartender for about a month and it didn't work out because he had to wait til after 2 a.m. to see her. Then proceeds to tell me he was out on a date with this 25 yo. a few nights ago. He asks me if I want to see him and I tell him it is probably not a good idea (as he constantly tells me all these young girls he sleeps with) as I am tired of playing his stupid games. He then tells me I know he is the man of my dreams and would marry him if he asked me. I tell him again probably not a good idea and he says ok this is the second time I've turned him down. I send him a text of "good nite" and he says "It could have been". He then sends me a text message at 12:40 a.m. the following day to tell me sorry that he didn't get back to me that his girlfriend came home. WTF. Why does he do this stupid s*it. Like I said he's 42 5'10 about 220 lbs and he's not drop dead gorgeous. My friends constantly ask what the hell I see in him and to be honest I couldn't tell you. But I don't understand why he has to lie about it. Does he think it makes me jealous, cause it doesn't or that it will make me want to run and be with him? As he should know by now it just pushes me away. Oh and btw he only seems to date girls under 30.
Any input guys of what he is really thinking?
My immediate response is that he is not dating, nor sleeping with, these other girls. What he is doing is trying to convince you that he is, in fact, 'all that', still has game, and has what it takes to bag women nearing half his age. This all done as an attempt to make him look like a very desirable man.
But, he could really be sleeping with them and is using to make you jealous-once again by proving that he is still all that and you are missing your chance to be with such an attractive guy.
And, any guy who texts an ex after midnight is more than likely looking for a booty call.
What ever the case, dump the guy already, block his number, and get involved with a man who is not as pathetic.
lol - but the thing is, I don't beleive he's got all these "younger" girls at his beckoning call like he says he does and I definately don't believe he's having sex with them either. This is terrible but he once told me that this really "hot" girl wanted to date him and I know this is bad but I read the text message that he sent to her while we weren't together that said "I really like you and think you are a sweetheart and I wouldn't never do anything to jeopardize your job, I just hoped you would go on a date with me". Then he told me later that it didn't work out because she was too much like his ex-wife. LOL.
What makes me wonder is why allow such a man to influence you like he is?
Obviously he has low self-esteem and is trying to find anyone that will show him some attention.
To text or call someone at that our of the night is only looking for sex. For you to even answer him back was wrong.
However, you answered him. He has a hook somewhere in you. Cut the line and swim away.
I am just curious. I have been dating this guy on and off for about 1 year now (he's 42 and I am 39) and he recently contacted me after about 6 weeks after we split up. He sends me a text message at 1:30 a.m. and asks "Where are you". The conversation starts off good and then he starts saying he was seeing this 27 yo bartender for about a month and it didn't work out because he had to wait til after 2 a.m. to see her. Then proceeds to tell me he was out on a date with this 25 yo. a few nights ago. He asks me if I want to see him and I tell him it is probably not a good idea (as he constantly tells me all these young girls he sleeps with) as I am tired of playing his stupid games. He then tells me I know he is the man of my dreams and would marry him if he asked me. I tell him again probably not a good idea and he says ok this is the second time I've turned him down. I send him a text of "good nite" and he says "It could have been". He then sends me a text message at 12:40 a.m. the following day to tell me sorry that he didn't get back to me that his girlfriend came home. WTF. Why does he do this stupid s*it. Like I said he's 42 5'10 about 220 lbs and he's not drop dead gorgeous. My friends constantly ask what the hell I see in him and to be honest I couldn't tell you. But I don't understand why he has to lie about it. Does he think it makes me jealous, cause it doesn't or that it will make me want to run and be with him? As he should know by now it just pushes me away. Oh and btw he only seems to date girls under 30.
I thought this as well, at first. However, he acted the same the next morning, and at other times. It might not be the booze, unless he drinks all the time.
I agree with many of these posts. It takes two to tango. You might want to consider taking back your dance card.
lol - but the thing is, I don't beleive he's got all these "younger" girls at his beckoning call like he says he does and I definately don't believe he's having sex with them either. This is terrible but he once told me that this really "hot" girl wanted to date him and I know this is bad but I read the text message that he sent to her while we weren't together that said "I really like you and think you are a sweetheart and I wouldn't never do anything to jeopardize your job, I just hoped you would go on a date with me". Then he told me later that it didn't work out because she was too much like his ex-wife. LOL.
Don't overanalyze it. Find something else to do or think about and move on.
The more important issue is why are you attracted to such men. figure that out and he will disappear.
Bingo!!
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