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He's attempting to set you up as a potential "booty call",OP.
Not knowing you personally...but knowing how these things go...he's probably already come over once or twice just for "loving."
Change your phone number and your locks and move on w/ your life.
If that's what you want to do...
He's a wad, a tool. Stop responding to his texts and/or messages. Next time he calls if you inadvertently pick up, tell him you have a date and need to go. He'll likely try to keep you on the phone, pry out details; make sure to hang up on him without saying goodbye if he attempts this.
That should solve your problem nicely. If he calls back after that just say THESE words (they're man-words):
"DUDE, it's over. Knock it the hell off."
Best response you have gotten is the one above. This guy isn't interested in having a relationship with you, he isn't interested in a booty call. He's an insecure excuse of a man who wants attention, wants to feel like he has somebody "hangin on" to make himself feel a little less empty. Take the advice of the poster above, don't waste your time with him. Think about what you really want in a relationship--and why you feel the need to accept any attention, regardless of how useless. This guy is never going to give you what you need, unless you need to feel unappreciated, unvalued and used.
I am just curious. I have been dating this guy on and off for about 1 year now (he's 42 and I am 39) and he recently contacted me after about 6 weeks after we split up. He sends me a text message at 1:30 a.m. and asks "Where are you". The conversation starts off good and then he starts saying he was seeing this 27 yo bartender for about a month and it didn't work out because he had to wait til after 2 a.m. to see her. Then proceeds to tell me he was out on a date with this 25 yo. a few nights ago. He asks me if I want to see him and I tell him it is probably not a good idea (as he constantly tells me all these young girls he sleeps with) as I am tired of playing his stupid games. He then tells me I know he is the man of my dreams and would marry him if he asked me. I tell him again probably not a good idea and he says ok this is the second time I've turned him down. I send him a text of "good nite" and he says "It could have been". He then sends me a text message at 12:40 a.m. the following day to tell me sorry that he didn't get back to me that his girlfriend came home. WTF. Why does he do this stupid s*it. Like I said he's 42 5'10 about 220 lbs and he's not drop dead gorgeous. My friends constantly ask what the hell I see in him and to be honest I couldn't tell you. But I don't understand why he has to lie about it. Does he think it makes me jealous, cause it doesn't or that it will make me want to run and be with him? As he should know by now it just pushes me away. Oh and btw he only seems to date girls under 30.
Any input guys of what he is really thinking?
From your story I get the sense that he is really in to you and maybe he is not too confident that you are in to him that much if you are the one who cut things off before, so he is trying to say "Hey, look all these other women want to be with me but why not you?" That is my initial feeling, but it could be that maybe he is dating all these other people. Who knows really. I think he just doesn't know how to make you stay with him and he is afraid to be rejected or maybe to be rejected again if you cut him off before.
I am just curious. I have been dating this guy on and off for about 1 year now (he's 42 and I am 39) and he recently contacted me after about 6 weeks after we split up. He sends me a text message at 1:30 a.m. and asks "Where are you". The conversation starts off good and then he starts saying he was seeing this 27 yo bartender for about a month and it didn't work out because he had to wait til after 2 a.m. to see her. Then proceeds to tell me he was out on a date with this 25 yo. a few nights ago. He asks me if I want to see him and I tell him it is probably not a good idea (as he constantly tells me all these young girls he sleeps with) as I am tired of playing his stupid games. He then tells me I know he is the man of my dreams and would marry him if he asked me. I tell him again probably not a good idea and he says ok this is the second time I've turned him down. I send him a text of "good nite" and he says "It could have been". He then sends me a text message at 12:40 a.m. the following day to tell me sorry that he didn't get back to me that his girlfriend came home. WTF. Why does he do this stupid s*it. Like I said he's 42 5'10 about 220 lbs and he's not drop dead gorgeous. My friends constantly ask what the hell I see in him and to be honest I couldn't tell you. But I don't understand why he has to lie about it. Does he think it makes me jealous, cause it doesn't or that it will make me want to run and be with him? As he should know by now it just pushes me away. Oh and btw he only seems to date girls under 30.
Any input guys of what he is really thinking?
To heck with getting men's input on this. It doesn't require a Y-chromosome for someone to tell you that this guy is a self-absorbed loser who is looking for a hook-up and an ego-stroking.
The bigger question is more about why you haven't gotten rid of him once and for all. Repeat after me: "I am no longer interested in any kind of relationship with you. Please stop contacting me." Say it once, and once only, and then let all future calls go to voicemail and delete any and all messages from him without listening to or reading them.
Effort you spend on this guy is only going to be wasted.
Plain and simple, he is drunk when he calls you. Don't fall for the "I am sleeping with 20 year olds line..." That line is a defense mechanism on how he f....d things up with you and now he is trying to make you jealous so he can feel better about himself. Move on...
Who knows? He probably does not know himself what he is thinking. The vast majority of people do not put much effort into it.
The bigger question is, since you have put some effort into your thinking about it, why you did not tell him to go screw himself when he started mentioning messing with other girls? Do you lack higher reasoning? You express curiosity so one would hope there is a rational being behind the question. Think with your brain and not your hormones.
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