Partner thinks we should get a full time nanny? (baby, parents, playing)
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My son is just over a month old. His father comes from a rather wealthy family and he and his brothers had 2 full time nannies to take care of them.
However, I couldn't believe it when he suggested we should get one too so I don't have to deal with changing nappies or giving him a bath. I was puzzled. Like if I would ever trade those moments with my baby when I love changing his nappy, even the very poopy ones. I love playing with his hands and feet while I clean him.
I come from a normal middle class family and not used to any of that. We have a housekeeper but only twice a week. He wanted to have a full time housekeeper as well! I appreaciate her help but there's a few things I like to do myself and not have a stranger wondering around the house.
Do you think he doubts my mothering skills to want a nanny?
My son is just over a month old. His father comes from a rather wealthy family and he and his brothers had 2 full time nannies to take care of them.
However, I couldn't believe it when he suggested we should get one too so I don't have to deal with changing nappies or giving him a bath. I was puzzled. Like if I would ever trade those moments with my baby when I love changing his nappy, even the very poopy ones. I love playing with his hands and feet while I clean him.
I come from a normal middle class family and not used to any of that. We have a housekeeper but only twice a week. He wanted to have a full time housekeeper as well! I appreaciate her help but there's a few things I like to do myself and not have a stranger wondering around the house.
Do you think he doubts my mothering skills to want a nanny?
You may want to tell him that you enjoy what you are doing to take care of your son. Maybe he just doesn't see that.
No. I think he's just thinking about making your life together resemble his life as a child.
Just tell him what you told us. You're PARTNERS.
When I was in college, I dated someone who came from a very wealthy background. Nannies, cooks, housekeepers, everything under the sun. I was absolutely shocked at how little he knew about everyday things. The biggest shocker was when I handed him an orange and he had absolutely no idea how to peel it. Apparently, he had always had "hired help" around to peel oranges for him.
I'm not saying that would happen if you had a full time nanny, but there are trade offs.
Discuss it with your husband. Perhaps having someone part time would allow you to catch up on your sleep and have some time for yourself and you would still have plenty of Baby Loving & Baby Bonding time.
When I was in college, I dated someone who came from a very wealthy background. Nannies, cooks, housekeepers, everything under the sun. I was absolutely shocked at how little he knew about everyday things. The biggest shocker was when I handed him an orange and he had absolutely no idea how to peel it. Apparently, he had always had "hired help" around to peel oranges for him.
I'm not saying that would happen if you had a full time nanny, but there are trade offs.
Discuss it with your husband. Perhaps having someone part time would allow you to catch up on your sleep and have some time for yourself and you would still have plenty of Baby Loving & Baby Bonding time.
I grew up with a nanny at times, many of my friends had nannies, all of us can peel oranges and run our own lives just fine.
OP if you work full time and your partner wants to get a nanny to help it doesn't seem to be a big deal to me. Now if you're at home and you don't want the extra help then I understand. However, either way you are the mom and you get an equal voice in the decision.
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I love playing with his hands and feet while I clean him. 
