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My 15-year-old daughter currently is barely speaking to me because I wouldn't let her spend the night with 4 boys and another girl at one kid's house. It wasn't a graduation party, birthday party, or a lock-in. The kids had just gathered at one house and all but my daughter were spending the night. This is the second time this has come up.
My question is not "Should I or shoudn't I let her?" because my husband and I and are not going to let her do this.
Rather, I'm wondering if this is a "thing" now. Parents of teens: Do kids in your community have boy/girl sleepovers?
Terrible idea. While teenage boy-girl parties - adequately supervised - are great, sleepovers are asking for trouble. What are these parents thinking?? (ARE they thinking??)
I allowed it, but not as a casual spur-of-the-moment thing. It was always in conjunction with some sort of celebration, and after I spoke with the parents to make sure of supervision.
What?! That is ridiculous for parents to allow kids on a coed sleepover. You might as well just let the boy or girl sleep over at your house. Then you would have a modicum of control.
No not something that is happening--not where I live now (a conservative area) not where I lived before (super progressive area). Good for you for putting your foot down. Totally inappropriate.
Yes, this seems to be a 'thing' here in NC. It has come up for us a few times, along with co ed campouts.
Parties run late, then you have a choice of going to get your child at midnight or 1 am, OR letting her drive home herself, OR sleeping over.
My daughter just turned 17 and slept over at a friends house for his birthday. Parents were there to supervise. I'm not crazy about it. Boys were upstairs in the host's bedroom and girls slept downstairs in the den. I know that particular mother to be particularly watchful.
I don't make hard and fast rules, I evaluate each request on its own merits, so I would not necessarily let her do it again. It would just depend on the circumstances.
I let her do a one night coed campout once...parent supervised. It was a Gay-Straight Alliance event, most of the kids were gay, so who knows who was sleeping with whom?????
Spur of the moment for a 15 year old? Nope! You absolutely did the right thing.
My 15-year-old daughter currently is barely speaking to me because I wouldn't let her spend the night with 4 boys and another girl at one kid's house. It wasn't a graduation party, birthday party, or a lock-in. The kids had just gathered at one house and all but my daughter were spending the night. This is the second time this has come up.
My question is not "Should I or shoudn't I let her?" because my husband and I and are not going to let her do this.
Rather, I'm wondering if this is a "thing" now. Parents of teens: Do kids in your community have boy/girl sleepovers?
Yes.....and we never had a problem with inappropriate behavior.....I'd much rather they all crash at my house then be off running around the city. Most of the times they would fall asleep watching movies on the living room floor. If parents are home and supervising. ...I don't see what the problem is.
When my kids were younger they would have sleepovers for their birthday. The birthday kid could invite 4-5 friends, and the sibling (opposite gender) could invite ONE friend. When it came time to sleep, the opposite child and his/her pal would go upstairs and the slumber party people would stay in the family room.
This year my daughter turned 11 years it and it was the first time we did NOT allow our son to invite a friend over. Those days are over. I feel co-ed is fine when the kids are younger, but not once they are nearing tween age. And certainly NEVER as a teenager.
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