First, this is my significant other and his ex-wife. She is in CT. I won't go into her moving her boyfriend in as soon as my SO moved out.
They had 4 kids, 2 from her previous marriage that he adopted and 2 of their own. Right now I think the kids are 23, 21, 18, 17. The court order said he'd pay a couple hundred a week for the two youngest. He gladly did. Never missed a week. The youngest was about 12 when my SO moved out. He was advised not to fight for custody because it would be expensive and he'd never win. He regrets taking that advice.
He was divorced/separated for a couple years when we became reacquainted. (we were in the same Marine squadron though not involved in the early 80's). I moved to CT to be with him. His ex ranted like a madwoman about the youngest being unmanageable and how she had to come live with us. We were unable to at the time but after 8 months there, I had a job offer for Hawaii. We invited her to come with us. She did and was here for 10 months. Jan-Oct of this year. We got her to the dentist, had numerous neglected dental issues fixed. She had some health issues that were straightened out and we got her some "prevention" since she turned 17 while we had her here and she was wild as the March wind. She continuously said she wanted to go back and her mother continuously swore/cursed like a nutcase about the girl, calling her the worst names imaginable, saying she couldn't come back. We went to family counseling and just started getting her to go. Then her mother started working on her to get her back. Since she was here child support was suspended (VERBALLY BETWEEN THEM BUT NOT THROUGH THE COURT) because her brother stayed there, turned 18, and graduated high school class of 2013. Then he joined us for a few months His mother talked him into coming back, too. They are both back there now. We wanted them both to stay. She will be 18 in April.
While here we worked with agencies enrolling her in 3 different programs because she refused to go to school (yes, I know, but I was not allowed to intervene, thus the counselling. We were working that out.) She was on track to get her GED the month she left. While here she got a well paying job as a nanny. She has been working since the day she got back to CT and hasn't been back to school there either.
TODAY (as we get ready to relocate to GA in 3 weeks) the mother started ranting to my SO about taking him to court and he owes her 2 years of child support. He paid up to the time his daughter came with us to HI as agreed and has those records. He covered her on his medical, paid full support while here.
I think we should get all documentation and, when we get to GA, initiate an interstate child support case (btdt) and document everything with the courts. My SO is willing to continue to pay support until the girl turns 18. The ex says she's entitled until the kids are 26?!!
Is there anyone who has experience/advise they can share? We are already stressed about this move and now this. (my kids are grown)
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We're going to be in GA in a few weeks. I know there are some states that are really good working between states. (TN being one of them)
