Punishement Ideas (punishments, out of control, infants, spank)
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Although I believe in spanking, there are numerous other possibilities including grounding to their room, early bedtime, chores, loss of a specific privilege if it's been abused, standing in the corner...there are all sorts of things.
My kids are 7 and 8 (boy and girl): main problems: sassing, bickering with each other, and making a ton of noise
Actually I hate to be the one to break it to you....your kids are just being kids, (the problems not really a problem, it's the rule rather than the exception)...sibling rivalry an all...I don't know ANY kids that aren't noisy. If they're constantly at it, try and keep them away from each other. Eventually (much to your relief) they'll calm down..Sassing you is a different matter...I can understand sending them to their rooms for that, until they're ready to apologize, for sure.
If they can't resolve their conflict, I make mine wear the Get Along Shirt (put them both in one of dh's old t-shirts). Usually, after a few minutes of being "stuck" together, they're laughing hysterically and get over their snit.
Thanks for all of your responses. By the way, I don't punish my kids without a good reason. I know they are kids and they will act up, make noise, make messes, etc. I let them be kids but when they are doing something they know they shouldn't be doing after a warning has been given several times, then that calls for punishment.
If both of them are arguing with each, to the point where they start hitting each other, I need to show them that that is bad behavior that I won't tolerate and will punish. I've tried to sit them down face to face and let them say something nice to each other and it turned out positive but they ended up arguing again the next day.
As a previous poster suggested, I need to do a better job of setting rules and communicating better with them. I think the problem is that I let them get away with too much and they think they can get away with their bad behavior.
My son is actually well-behaved until he is around his older sister who likes to stir the pot or whatever you want to call it. Anyway, everyone's comments got me thinking and I have better ideas if what I could do.
My son is actually well-behaved until he is around his older sister who likes to stir the pot or whatever you want to call it.
Find the time and space to have a private conversation with your son to teach him how to modify his reaction to his sister's teasing. Chances are, if he learns to ignore or laugh her off, she'll stop. Teach him some anti-bullying techniques.
I can guarantee I argued with at least one of my siblings virtually every day. There were 5 of us. Today we are all there for each other when it counts. We've been through a lot together over the years, things no one should have to experience really. The bottom line is we are family. Sometimes we still argue and disagree. It's human nature. We'll still be there tomorrow. My own two kids argued--not a lot though--and are very close today.
I can guarantee I argued with at least one of my siblings virtually every day. There were 5 of us. Today we are all there for each other when it counts. We've been through a lot together over the years, things no one should have to experience really. The bottom line is we are family. Sometimes we still argue and disagree. It's human nature. We'll still be there tomorrow. My own two kids argued--not a lot though--and are very close today.
This is true. My brother and I fought constantly and he is 9 years older! We are very close though, and always have been... I just got him in trouble when I was little and he retaliated by constant teasing. I knew my mom would take my side and I worked that angle as long as possible, as the 'baby'.
Kids will argue. No point in trying to stop it. I've always tried to guide mine in ways to work things out but I also don't take sides, or get involved, unless it was getting physical or REALLY severe.
They need to learn how to resolve conflict with others and if I was constantly stepping in, taking sides, insisting that they just stop, separating them, they miss out on valuable learning opportunities.
Neither more nor less debatable than what you said.
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