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The reason why I am doing it myself is because my granny who has passed away was the event planner. No one will make it special like she would. So yes, I rather do it myself.
Your mother? Your best friend? Showers are special due to who shows up and their intentions, not silly things like venues and favors.
Wait.. 1) You're throwing yourself a party? That's tacky.
2) You dont want to open gifts? That's the easiest way to offend people. They spent the money to buy it, the least they can do is see your reaction when you open it.
3) If 1 and 2 offend you, then dont ask for gifts.
I agree with this.
Furthermore, showers are typically only thrown for 1st babies only. Kind of like a "Welcome to motherhood" party.
Sadly more and more moms are having second showers thrown for them. I really shake my head at them. I find it tacky especially since many of these that i've been invited to - they just had a baby like 2 years ago!! I politely decline since I dont approve of second showers and just bring a small gift after the baby is born.
I guess everyone is different. I do not take offence to any posting. I would not ask if I did. It gives me the opportunity to learn and see the other side of things. Thanks again for the suggestions! I will factor in everyone's opinion going forward. I've been to many baby showers from people who have had more than one child so I do not see any harm in me having one. We at work just gave a co-worker a 3rd baby shower!! I still don't see any harm in me throwing it myself.. I know where, what, when, and how I want my event. They are not paying for it so why should someone help me? It does not matter to me. I just want my guest to happy and enjoy this event.
Not only is it really bad form to throw yourself a shower, I was always told a mother or sister should not throw a bridal or baby shower. It should be a friend. A shower is a way to honor a friend and most of us do not try to publically honor ourselves.
If you really want everybody to have a good time and not look like you are asking for gifts, then definitely put NO GIFTS on the invite. As far as your son goes he better get used to the world not rotating around him alone anymore. You don't even have to mention it is his birthday a few days later but I'm sure close family will know. Let him have his own special events for his own birthday and definitely let him open his gifts.
My daughters have been to several birthday parties where the birthday child did not open gifts in front of the guests. They are very disappointed because they put a lot of time into picking just the right gift and want to see how the gift is received. And I always ask "What presents did she get" so I can have some ideas for the next party.
The only time I've ever seen a shower for a second or third child is in the case of adoption. And usually the baby is present and passed around and is a very happy occasion. I was thrown such a shower for my adopted daughter and everyone was delighted to see the baby at her shower.
The only time I've ever seen a shower for a second or third child is in the case of adoption. And usually the baby is present and passed around and is a very happy occasion. I was thrown such a shower for my adopted daughter and everyone was delighted to see the baby at her shower.
I really love "meet the baby" celebrations. They're usually intimate (close family and friends), and more about celebrating the child than just the mother.
Ten years is a long time between babies. A lot of the items the OP might have stored away have probably been recalled for something or another. She might be having a child of the opposite sex this time. I have no issue with a shower for the 2nd child, especially when it's been so long since the first one.
But, yeah OP, it still is considered tacky to throw your own. I think it is now thought ok to have a relative officially host, (even if you are paying for it). A meet the baby party is different, but serves the same purpose, people come bearing gifts, which should be opened in their presence and cooed over.
ETA: My first two were 5 years apart, and I was thrown showers for both, hosted by friends. The 2nd and 3rd were very close together, and still my friends threw a shower, but on a much smaller scale.
Sadly more and more moms are having second showers thrown for them. I really shake my head at them. I find it tacky especially since many of these that i've been invited to - they just had a baby like 2 years ago!! I politely decline since I dont approve of second showers and just bring a small gift after the baby is born.
I agree. I don't know anyone who had a 2nd baby shower, no matter how far apart their kids are. Usually you buy the 2nd kid stuff after they are born, but not a full blown shower.
I think age gaps / different genders are horrible reasons to have 2nd showers.
Just because you insisted that your first born be draped in all things pink doesn't mean it's your friends' & family's responsibilities to purchase all things blue when you decide to pop out another kid 10 months later. Sorry, but that's on you.
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