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I have an 11 year old son who had a friend spend the night. He has spent the night lots of times before. The boys begged me to let them go to the highschool football game and I of course said no. But we have a park a few blocks away that they all go and play at. We live in a quiet small town, very safe. I asked the child if he goes to the park without his mom and he of course said yes. I took them and picked them up when it got dark as planned, about an hour and a half. Well he called his mom and she lost her mind and said her 11 year old had never been by himself anywhere. I apologized and told her I had them at home and she insisted on coming to get him and hung up on me. I waited at home like a nervous kid waiting in the principal's office only to have her send her daughter to knock on the door then scream at the son to get in the car and peeled off.
Hindsight I should of asked permission or maybe made them stay home but honestly there were a huge group of parents and kids there still playing when I picked them up. It was not a dangeros situation whatsoever. I feel horrible and I'm hoping she'll calm down and let me at least apologize properly.
Anyone else been in a situation like this? I feel bad enough as it is so please be kind.
I've never been in that situation and I think you know already what was wrong about it. (This is me being kind) She will calm down in due course and I would try to put something in writing which might be better received. Don't blame her son but be sure to tell her the boy told you he has been to the park alone before. The boy needs to assume some of the responsibility for this snafu but certainly not all.
It certainly would be a shame if this ruins this particular friendship but don't push it right now.
Different moms have different rules for their kids. Some kids get more freedom than others. You asked the kid and he said he was allowed. I would have thought it was okay at that point too.
I guess the moral of the story for all of us is to double check with the mom and not trust the child to tell the truth, but I honestly wouldn't have thought of it. My kids wouldn't lie so I wouldn't assume that another kid might be a liar.
Her son was probably at greater risk from her emotional driving than from the trip to the park.
I'm in my 30s so maybe this is a generational thing, but I'd be mad at my kid, not the other parent. My kid told a lie. He'd be paying the consequences. Guess I'm just old school.
I definately learned my lesson. Thank you all for your opinions, you've made me feel much better. I don't want to drag this around all weekend. I'm a people pleaser to a fault and I have a hard time with stuff like this. My husband said much of what you all said but it feels better coming from other parents. Thanks a lot. Again, I do realize I screwed up.
I definately learned my lesson. Thank you all for your opinions, you've made me feel much better. I don't want to drag this around all weekend. I'm a people pleaser to a fault and I have a hard time with stuff like this. My husband said much of what you all said but it feels better coming from other parents. Thanks a lot. Again, I do realize I screwed up.
Cut yourself some slack. You can't phone the mom for every little thing. My son has just turned 12, and he has kids over all the time. I would have done exactly what you did and asked the kid.
Hey Momof2boys12---if this is the worst mistake you make as a Mom of two boys you should wear the Queen of Moms Crown and we will all bow to you. Just wait till you get girls in the mix and cars and booze and weed or whatever. It only gets more...how shall we say it?... interesting. At least he didn't steal his Dad's airplane like a previous poster here!
Ha! I love it! Well I'm sure I've screwed up before just not had another parent point it out to me i guess... You sure did make me feel 10x better! Airplane huh... Well, at least they had ambition.
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