What is your opinion on 14 year olds getting their belly button pierced (teenage, appropriate)
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You're all crowd followers. I want my kids to have some self-control when it comes to all the new fads. First I will tell them "No, no one living in my house, under my roof will be pierced", and then they get the lecture about following every fad, just doing everything because everyone else is doing it and how they need to have a mind of their own. The fact is, kids only want to endure the pain of being pierced because everyone else is doing it. It's not anything any of them thought up themselves.
I can't tell if you are being facetious. Urging a kid to have a mind of her own and not follow the crowd, yet do exactly what you tell her to do, is a confusing and contradictory message. If you are joking and I am just not seeing that, sorry.
Lol so then how did it start? Sure SOME people may do it because everyone else is doing it but surely not ALL. My ears were pierced as a baby so I cant say anything about that but as for tatoos I got them because they MEAN something to me. I got SERENITY on my stomach to honor the baby I miscarried. I have a heart with thorns wrapped around it to signify the pain ive been through. I got a black rose to signify the break up of my first boyfriend (dying love) Those deff werent because everyone else were getting them.
You seriously don't believe you are the first person in the world to load yourself up with tattoos and piercings? The fad has been around for years already, there is nothing unique about being just another woman with a lot of tattoos. Be real at least.
I can't tell if you are being facetious. Urging a kid to have a mind of her own and not follow the crowd, yet do exactly what you tell her to do, is a confusing and contradictory message. If you are joking and I am just not seeing that, sorry.
Nope -- and that's one reason I would not allow a 14 year old girl or boy to do any permanent mutilation on their bodies. They are only doing it because they saw someone else doing it, they may become completely different people when they are 21, or 30.
They can color their hair, they can shave their heads for all I care, but nothing that permanently scars them for some passing fad or crowd following at age 14.
You seriously don't believe you are the first person in the world to load yourself up with tattoos and piercings? The fad has been around for years already, there is nothing unique about being just another woman with a lot of tattoos. Be real at least.
I didnt do it to look "cool". All my tattoos are in places that cant be seen while im wearing clothes. I got them because they MEAN something to me. SMH. And I wouldnt say I have ALOT of tattoos.
Nope -- and that's one reason I would not allow a 14 year old girl or boy to do any permanent mutilation on their bodies. They are only doing it because they saw someone else doing it, they may become completely different people when they are 21, or 30.
They can color their hair, they can shave their heads for all I care, but nothing that permanently scars them for some passing fad or crowd following at age 14.
I saw earlier that you used the words "No one living in this house will be pierced" or something similar. What would you do if your daughter came home from a friend's house with a pierced belly button? You didn't allow it--it happened without your consent, but it happened. Now what? Kick her out at 14? Make her remove the jewelry and hope she doesn't put it back in? In any case, the deed is done and she is pierced. Mutilated, as you say. Do you make good on your threat?
Yes -- and a girl of 14 needs to realize that there is nothing - no piercing, no tattoo that will make her cute if she isn't. And beauty really is more than skin deep or pierced skin deep.
It's one thing to say 14 is too young for something permanent as a tattoo. I actually agree with you there. But to call adults "crowd followers" because of their own personal choices is pretty rude and judgmental, imo. Some people actually chose to get a piercing or a tattoo because it's what THEY wanted, not because of anybody else, and most of us here are old enough for our parents and peers opinions not to matter much. And btw, tattoos have been around forever, so I hardly see how that is a "passing fad."
I would not allow my dd to get any tattoos, or piercings other than ears, as long as she is a minor. However, when she turns 18, I hope she makes a well informed decision on what she wants to do, whatever it is, and not because she was brainwashed.
I want my kids to have some self-control when it comes to all the new fads. First I will tell them "No, no one living in my house, under my roof will be pierced", and then they get the lecture about following every fad, just doing everything because everyone else is doing it and how they need to have a mind of their own.
And this attitude, ladies and gentlemen, is EXACTLY why hippies rebelled in the 1960's. Because they wanted to have a mind of their own and their parents were telling them self-control was the end-all to happiness and should be honored above self-expression.
You seriously don't believe you are the first person in the world to load yourself up with tattoos and piercings? The fad has been around for years already, there is nothing unique about being just another woman with a lot of tattoos. Be real at least.
The fact that someone else has done it before does not mean that crowd following is a REASON for doing it. How is it any more or less fad-ish than earrings, finger rings, necklaces? Hoodie sweaters. WWJD gear....
I used a navel ring as the reward for meeting my weight loss goals. So long as my belly was too yucky to adorn, I didn't. (My toes are really ugly. Never wear tow rings.) When I am a place where it is inappropriate to expose my belly, it is hidden. When somewhere where it is appropriate, it is decoration, just like earrings, necklace...
I am not sure where you are leaping to "a lot of" or "loaded up with". I have one tattoo of significance for me. I have a teeny nose stud and navel ring. Hardly "loaded up with". I think the OP was talking about ONE piercing.
You're all crowd followers. I want my kids to have some self-control when it comes to all the new fads. First I will tell them "No, no one living in my house, under my roof will be pierced", and then they get the lecture about following every fad, just doing everything because everyone else is doing it and how they need to have a mind of their own. The fact is, kids only want to endure the pain of being pierced because everyone else is doing it. It's not anything any of them thought up themselves.
so you've never followed a fad? Bell bottoms? Miniskirts? legwarmers? grunge? nothing?
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