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I saw a news report with this name on my local news a few days ago and I was outraged. For one thing, the station had called those who CHOOSE not to have children selfish before the story even aired, and secondly why are people who decide not to have children selfish? Wouldn't it be more selfish to have a child you didn't really want???
Parents, do you see those who have made the choice not to have children, as selfish?
Last edited by mrstewart; 10-05-2010 at 07:19 PM..
Reason: Changed the word "breed" to "have children"-folks get offended by this term.
sort of, yes. But I think that's ok. If you don't want kids, by all means, don't have any. My BFF is childless at 37 ans will most likely remain that way. That's ok.
I don't think it's selfish to have a child you don't really want. I think it's stupid to have a child you don't really want. I also think it's pretty altruistic to intentionally refrain from have children. I think it is not selfish to want children and have them. I do, however, think it's incredibly selfish to have children intentionally -while- you are receiving government funds for living expenses - such as Section 8 housing, welfare, etc.
If someone chooses not to have children then who am I to judge? We are all different, want different things, have different goals and dreams...this is what makes life so colorful!
I don't think it's selfish to have a child you don't really want. I think it's stupid to have a child you don't really want. I also think it's pretty altruistic to intentionally refrain from have children. I think it is not selfish to want children and have them. I do, however, think it's incredibly selfish to have children intentionally -while- you are receiving government funds for living expenses - such as Section 8 housing, welfare, etc.
Actually, I think I heard one of the dumbest stories this afternoon...a young woman who once worked for us left college because she was pregnant and got married, had another child after that, her husband lost his job and we let her go, she moved in with her parents not too long ago and she is pregnant again...
I have to say, if my child came home because he/she was in such financial dire straits, I think I would be rather perturbed if another baby was on the way...heck, they can't even care for themselves, not to mention ANOTHER baby!
Last edited by mrstewart; 10-05-2010 at 07:41 PM..
I think it's selfish to have children one can't afford. People who chose to not have children don't fall into that category. I can't view them as selfish in terms of being childless. They may be selfish for other reasons though.
Every generation goes through a period of being labeled the "selfish" generation by previous generations. The baby boomers were labeled the "me" generation. Boomers received a lot of negative press for delaying parenthood until 30 or 40. Generation Y, Generation X, and the Millennial Generation are all labeled selfish. Mellenniel's have the added label of MOST selfish and narcissistic.
If you were old enough to be around to hear what was said of previous generations, you wouldn't be so offended. What they're saying about your generation isn't anything new.
The reality is that journalists get paid to create stories. Apparently it was a slow news day when someone became inspired to write that story---probably due to being a resentful, overwhelmed parent.
I have to say, if my child came home because he/she was in such financial dire straits, I think I would be rather perturbed if another baby was on the way...heck, they can't even care for themselves, not to mention ANOTHER baby!
Oh tell me about it. My good friend's brother had a kid at 16 with his girlfriend. Let's just say he dropped him off with Grandma and has yet to pick him up. Sure he comes and says hi (hes now 19). And now they are expecting baby number 2. When he told me this I said "didn't he learn where babys come from the first time?"
Parents, do you see those who have made the choice not to have children, as selfish?
Absolutely not. Why should anyone view someone who has made that decision as "selfish"??? That's their decision and they shouldn't be "guilted" into having kids because someone else thinks it's selfish if they don't.
I find it more selfish when people pop out kids and ditch them with nannies, babysitters, or day care centers for 12-15 hours a day. I mean, why bother having a kid if you're not going to spend time with it?
I also agree with the above statements about it being selfish to continue having kids you can't afford to house, feed, clothe, or care for.
I saw a news report with this name on my local news a few days ago and I was outraged. For one thing, the station had called those who CHOOSE not to have children selfish before the story even aired, and secondly why are people who decide not to have children selfish? Wouldn't it be more selfish to have a child you didn't really want???
Parents, do you see those who have made the choice not to have children, as selfish?
Well, to be a good parent one must be selfless, not self-centered.
People who don't have kids on purpose are generally more self-involved - more "selfish" about how they spend their time, money and energy.
That's not bad or wrong per se, as no one should have a child unless they are completely prepared to do what it takes to be a good parent.
Knowing ourselves well enough to truthfully say "I'm not up to the challenge of parenthood" is a good kind of selfishness if it saves a child from coming into this world without all the love and attention it deserves.
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