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I think if parent and child design it together, a contract could be an excellent way to communicate expectations and to bridge the generation gap. I think it could also make the child feel as if he/she is truly being heard by the parent.
I think having a written parental contract is silly. Parents should be making their age appropriate expectations clear to their children long before their children can even read.
And what about contract violations? Who gets fired?
I think having a written parental contract is silly. Parents should be making their age appropriate expectations clear to their children long before their children can even read.
And what about contract violations? Who gets fired?
In that post, I also said it wouldn't be my style. You know why? Because I'd probably be the one to violate it! lol. I'm just too freewheeling to use it.
I have friends who could really make this work well in particular circumstances (example, cell phone use contract, facebook page contract). That doesn't mean that they haven't been making their expectations clear up until this point. A contract could be a fun project and useful, I think, for some families.
I think having a written parental contract is silly. Parents should be making their age appropriate expectations clear to their children long before their children can even read.
And what about contract violations? Who gets fired?
Fired for what? In all contracts, there are penalties for non-compliance. these could be determined by the parties.
Too old fashioned. When my sons were under 18 Mom and Dad had the final say, not the kids and certainly not a document, and we reserved the right to change our minds to fit the circumstances. Which sometimes meant cracking the whip (figure of speech) and sometimes meant going all gooey on everybody and having ice cream for breakfast because.... because we felt like it.
In my house, the adults are in charge and the daughter does what she's told (most of the time). We have rules, we don't need a contract and penalties.
I don't believe in kids holding adults accountable.
In *my* house, we have what I like to call a Democratic Tyranny. What does that mean? It means that while my husband and I have rules and we expect them to be followed, we welcome input from our children. We aren't so pigheaded as to think we are All Knowing Parents.
In *my* house, we have what I like to call a Democratic Tyranny. What does that mean? It means that while my husband and I have rules and we expect them to be followed, we welcome input from our children. We aren't so pigheaded as to think we are All Knowing Parents.
In my house, the adults are in charge and the daughter does what she's told (most of the time). We have rules, we don't need a contract and penalties.
I don't believe in kids holding adults accountable.
All households are different, granted.
Even still, as in any relationship, I think that there are mutual expectations and roles. It doesn't matter if it's a work relationship, friendship, romance, etc.
In *my* house, we have what I like to call a Democratic Tyranny. What does that mean? It means that while my husband and I have rules and we expect them to be followed, we welcome input from our children. We aren't so pigheaded as to think we are All Knowing Parents.
We have pretty much the same thing. We listen to our girls, but in the end, we make the decisions because we are the adults. They also know that when we say there will be consequences, we mean it!
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