If you were given a chance to go back to the past to tell yourself one thing that can change your future....

[wit-nit]

I could dispense myself of guilt if I coud go back to my childhood and warn Marie Antionette that she could save her head by not starting the French Revolution...

[back2M]

Good Forum.

I would of paid attention to the signs and SAID NO and not gotten married. The signs being;


* First date his car broke down on the highway in the rain, and the bar we went to ended up being a "Bikie" bar - real rough
* Long distance relationships do not work as he was in the UK and I lived in the States,
* Knew each other for 4 years but only spent total of 3 months in each other company before marriage
* telephone marriage proposal - the smoke/fire alarm went off so could not understand what he was saying, had to yell it over the phone.
* Ring arrives in the mail, big flaw in the middle of the diamond, had to be returned
* wedding was in the garden, the video shows when I was saying my vows he wasn't even paying attention to me but was looking upwards at the bird in the tree above us
* bird ended up pooping on him about 5 minutes later
* honeymoon - he was so nervous that he failed in the bedroom for the first 2 days- I swear I wasn't demanding!
* on the plane to move to the UK to live and held up in the "detention holding cells" for 4 hours at the airport as the laws has changed one month before and I did not have a "Permanent Visa" to live in the U.K.
* Only thing that saved me not being put on a plane back to the States was friend of family was an immigration officer who had told him didn't need it 3 months before so I got to stay
* Moved even farther away from my siblings in the States, UK to Australia
* very different backgrounds-over years found out not much in common
* 12 years later marriage ended from him having affair with a woman at his work
* Single parent raising 2 kids - now adults, they are the only thing that came out good from that relationship

So now you know why I would of changed my mind! Maybe in my next life!



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[Drover]

Marry the blonde instead of the redhead.

[tasmtairy]

I would tell myself that you were born with the "save money" gene...so use it!!

[Ruby Wilfong]

I've given this much thought, and knowing what my life is now, and all it took to get me here, the only thing I'd really change is the place I lived when I was only 18, on my own and with my son who was only 5 months old. My front door would have 4 dead bolts on it, and serious locks on all the windows, and the man who broke in would never have gotten through that door!

[rural chick]

hmmmmm I think this is a powerful question and have been thinking on this ever since it was posted.

The one thing I would tell myself to change my future is:

Girl.... don't let that first husband be mean to you and don't let him slap you around. Be assertive and stand up for your rights as a wife and mother. And if that doesn't help, get out as soon as you can. Take karate lessons if you have to....and if you have to hire a hit man....do it!