Okay, I didn't really know where to put this. As it relates to my stormy relationship with my mom I guessed it best to put it in Relationships but if the mods want to move it they will.
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It's a bit complicated and I want input as to whether or not I am understanding this the logical and correct way.
History: Two years ago (or so) my mother surprised me on my birthday with a Razr (the original, when they were kinda new) cell phone and service via TMobile.
She had entered a contract for service for her own benefit, and being a new customer they of course offered her another line cheap and the phones free and all that jazz. I think she paid $30 for the activation.
The total monthly bill was around $60 after taxes, for 2 lines, and she acknowledged that this was a gift but also said something along the lines of "Later on when you can help me pay the bill that would be appreciated." I was a bit annoyed by this but at the same time, I DID need a cell phone and after a few months (I was out of a job at the time) I did start paying half of the bill.
I was sharing the phone with my teenage son, since I worked from home, he would take it when he went to a friends house so I could reach him when needed. Fast forward a bit; my mom decided that my son should have his own phone, and added a line, and we also discussed adding another line for my partner, so at this time (when the lines were added) the phones for these lines were free with contract renewal, which would have happened regardless once my mom decided my son "needed" his own phone.
At the same time my partner's sister was ending her TMobile contract so she very generously gave my son a Sidekick phone and my mom decided to add internet service for him since he had the internet-capable phone. We all ended up with new phones (free with contract) and the Razr, which had been problematic for a while, went into a drawer to be a backup phone.
She said she would pay for her and my son's service, and we would pay for ours (me and my partner). Adding a line is $9.99 a month but with internet it is $19.99. Then my mom decided to add unlimited texting which is $20 a month for all of us and she upped the shared minutes on the plan as well, so the total bill was now about $110 a month broken down like this:
Basic family plan w/shared minutes: $60 (two lines included)
Add-line with internet for my son: $20
Add-line for my partner $9.99 (original 2 lines were for me and mom)
Add unlimited texting for everyone: $20, but divided by 3 of us really as the internet plan includes unlimited texting.
So the way I figure it, the logical way to share the bill is like this:
Basic plan divided by 2: $30 my share
Additional line for my partner: $10 more
Split of unlimited text costs: $14 more (figure 20 a month divided by 3 and rounded up to $7 a month)
So the total we'd pay is about $55 and my mom would pay about $60 since she offered from the beginning to pay for my son's phone and the internet service was HER idea.. so if she pays for her and my son's phones:
Basic plan divided by 2: $30 her share
Additional line for son: $19.99 a month
Her share of unlimited text costs: $7 a month
Either way it is almost a 50/50 split with my mom paying a TINY bit more due to my son's internet... but in reality we just called it 50/50 and paid half of every bill. Okay so enough of that.
All fine and dandy until my son screwed up big time and spent 5 hours on the phone with some girl, effectively using up everyone's minutes for the month all in one night. We never ran out of minutes so no one paid any attention, having no idea this had taken place, and we were ALL using the phone from that point forward on PEAK minute rates.. without a clue about it. All of us were guilty on not checking the minute usage. My son confessed to me about this call but he didn't realize that it had put us all into overage at the time either. He said "I don't know what it will cause but I will pay for it, I promise!"
Bottom line: an $800 surprise phone bill!! My mother went into ORBIT as you can imagine. Everyone's individual bill was right around $200 give or take five bucks so no one person was guiltier than the other (WELL, except for my son who used up all the free minutes in the first place)...
My mom didn't get onto my son about this though... she screamed at ME. Then she cut off my partner's phone line! Just hers, no one else's. Certainly not my son's! He's her "baby" and can do no wrong.
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Don't get me wrong, he is a great kid who did a stupid thing and took responsibility (he has since paid me back)... but my mom thinks his poop doesn't stink.
In the end we (my partner and I) paid $600 of this bill. My mother paid the remainder. So I effectively paid for me, my son, and my partner's portion. I certainly didn't point out to my mom that she agreed to pay my son's bill in the first place. I wanted to pay all of it because regardless, it is my kid who did this... but I didn't have $800 so I paid $600.
Is this the fair way to have handled payment of this bill?
The issue has become a bigger issue because I am now behind on the "regular" bill and couldn't pay it in full for April and May because I was out of work. I've told my mom I will catch up ASAP and I have paid for June and July and we have been very very careful with the usage, basically allowing her almost all of the shared minutes, using only 40 minutes a month out of those minutes (between the THREE of us, me, myself, and my partner)... yet she is harping on it constantly and recently sent my PARTNER a very hateful text message telling her not to use the cell phone for 1-800 numbers as it "uses air time" (it was a 2 minute call and was within the included plan minutes) or she was going to "cut her off"!
When my partner pointed out that we'd only used a total of 40 minutes that month and that the 800 calls are not "toll" or extra or anything my mom told her not to get attitude about a phone she wasn't paying for.
Still, even when she realized we were not going to be able to pay in full and we told her right away (I got laid off a week before my partner did) she still kept my son's internet connection on there even though he TOLD her to cut it off for the time being to save money!
Oh, and she offered to get him a health club membership and then sent me a $50 check for my birthday.
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I haven't cashed it and am planning on sending it back with a note to use it for the phone bill that is apparently an issue plaguing her NIGHT and DAY.
So anyway she is being really nasty about this bill... and I am tempted to bring up the $800 bill because TECHNICALLY, didn't we pay my son's portion which she said she would pay? So technically didn't we over-pay by about $200, which would certainly cover our normal bill for April and May? See where I'm going with this?
Please understand, I am not trying to get out of paying the darn phone bill... I'm just reacting to my mother's nastiness and her crazy desire to pin EVERYTHING on my partner if something goes wrong while absolving her little darling (my son) of any and all responsibility... so would I be "correct" in pointing out to her that we basically paid in advance for those 2 months by paying my son's portion since she agreed from the get-go to pay HIS bill and hasn't so much as even cut off his internet service during all this, OR said a word to him about the whole issue of using up the minutes??
I know this is a bunch of drama but I wonder what you would do. But to answer that, you need to understand what a crazy you know what my mother is... I curse the day that she brought the stupid phone to me in the first place. I have lots of issues with her and this is just the one at the forefront right now.
Now I am bound by HER contract yet have no control over the phone usage or bill or plan. Oh and she keeps saying that she "paid for all those phones" when every single one was a "free with service" deal and she was going to renew the contract anyway. I had NOTHING to do with her decision to get my son a phone in the first place. I was planning on going POCKET for all of us before she took this on herself.
Prior to the $800 bill there had been no issue with us paying in full and on time but she was STILL acting crazy about it and constantly telling us not to do this or that with the phone (directory assistance call at $1.49 sent her through the roof even though we PAID IT, for example)...or having a fit when my son considered selling the sidekick (that my partner's sister gave him!!) to get a different kind of phone, it's a control issue for her like everything else.
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