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Agreed. Someone you don't know, who also doesn't have any of the same contacts that you do, invites you to his house? And then you GO?!?! And you don't know anyone, but apparently you talked with his "good friend" (how would you even know that??) who didn't know why you were there but didn't buy the "random" excuse. Then the host says to chill out and you will meet again.
What kind of social get-together was this? Do you at least share a common interest like hiking, gaming, tacos?? How did he find you "on social media"?
This particular social media platform has events that only certain people get selected to be on based on activities they have eloquently written about online. He and I are both part of that group. There is slight verification for that process. People can look at each others profiles and see what we've written. If we've attended the same event, then they would probably write about it and can possibly see that me and/or most likely others have written about respective event.
I knew that the person I spoke with was a good friend of his because it came up in conversation. On top of that, there were unexpected bios of everyone sent out for the party beforehand, with mine having the least amount of detail. It was a risk, but the context was a small risk basically on all ends.
The host knew everyone else but myself or myself and maybe a small number of other people at the most.
This particular social media platform has events that only certain people get selected to be on based on activities they have eloquently written about online. He and I are both part of that group. There is slight verification for that process. People can look at each others profiles and see what we've written. If we've attended the same event, then they would probably write about it and can possibly see that me and/or most likely others have written about respective event.
I knew that the person I spoke with was a good friend of his because it came up in conversation. On top of that, there were unexpected bios of everyone sent out for the party beforehand, with mine having the least amount of detail. It was a risk, but the context was a small risk basically on all ends.
The host knew everyone else but myself or myself and maybe a small number of other people at the most.
Don’t care, you said it was weird and that was a red flag, which following up on proved the weird feeling was justified. This has nothing to do with paranoia. Not an invitation I would risk, nor would I appreciate being invited to fill a quota.
It sounds off the wall to me. If the guy wanted to get to know you better, why not just ask you to meet in a public place over a cup of coffee? I have met several people from City Data like that when I happened to be in their part of the world. No big deal - I just sent them a DM letting them know that I enjoyed their posts and would be in their vicinity on such and such a date and would they like to do a casual meet up at Starbucks or where-ever. No pressure involved I understood perfectly if they had other plans. So far, everyone I asked has said "yes" and it was fun to finally meet the person whose posts I'd been reading - sometimes for years.
I guess if the rather complicated social meet up process you describe is the norm for your group, then it was maybe normal to meet the way you two did. Personally, it sounds like quite a bit of work to me, but to each his own. However, if your intuition is telling you that something is up with the guy who gave you the invite, I'd pay attention to your sense of unease and proceed with the utmost of caution. You just can't be too careful these days.
Agreed. Someone you don't know, who also doesn't have any of the same contacts that you do, invites you to his house? And then you GO?!?! And you don't know anyone, but apparently you talked with his "good friend" (how would you even know that??) who didn't know why you were there but didn't buy the "random" excuse. Then the host says to chill out and you will meet again.
What kind of social get-together was this? Do you at least share a common interest like hiking, gaming, tacos?? How did he find you "on social media"?
Honestly, I've been wondering if this is a new social networking trend in the gay community, new enough that the OP hasn't heard of it. And the OP has now given us additional info about the website he was on, and recruited from: it's something like an authors' or bloggers' social networking venue, so he and the host and others at the party had that in common. So it wasn't coming from quite as far out in left field as the original post made it sound.
Maybe this isn't all that unusual for specialized social networking sites that organize around a specific interest, or that requires a certain qualification for membership.
Maybe the OP has a special characteristic that was underrepresented among the attendees and he was needed to make up the numbers.
To quote Richard in Silicon Valley, "You know, you could be a a twink, a bear, an otter, a circuit queen, a chub, a pup, a gipster, a daddy chaser, a leatherman, a lady boy. You could be a Donald Duck, which is a gay guy who got kicked out of the Navy."
So this person is inviting random strangers to his house? And no one knows why?
Yeah this is really weird - very, very weird in fact. I too would say bizarre. Pass.
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