Parents disowned me after I asked them to pay me back! (guilty, issues)
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I really love this.. Everyone is going on what the OP states...Not even knowing whether it is true or not.. And I agree with the posters who say when your parents helped you out other than their parental responsibilities and didn't ask for or never got it back that makes then a much better person than a child who took the money from a college fund (if indeed there was one) and "loaned" it to the mom....
NOW let's see... OP states her father is 68 and works 50 hours a week... And her mom goes to the casino every week.. And she "borrowed" $5000 from her son's college fund.....Do we know if ANY of this it true??? Maybe the OP did something other than give the money to mom and now wants everyone to feel sorry for them to make themselves feel better...
I owe my parents a LOT from everything they have done for me over the years and everyone here who says that is just the way it is are really sorry asshats... Almost EVERYONE owes their parents BIG time... And don't you EVER forget it...
No kidding! What ELSE would we go on? Those are the facts at hand...and our answers are obviously predicated upon those facts as presented being correct.
Why are you so intent on defending the OP's parents? Are you a selfish Yuppie Boomer too? Another one of these greedy Visigoths who mortgaged MY future to pay for your self-indulgence? I got nothing but contempt for most of the generations that preceded me and are still alive on this planet. They left us jack shyt and took all the goodies for themselves. The Boomers and the Silents, too. Both of them helped themselves to OUR future.
I swear not a single one of you yuppie Boomers...or even Silents...would last TEN MINUTES in this world if you were OUR age! The fortysomethings of today have the worst deal of any generation ever.
No kidding! What ELSE would we go on? Those are the facts at hand...and our answers are obviously predicated upon those facts as presented being correct.
Why are you so intent on defending the OP's parents? Are you a selfish Yuppie Boomer too? Another one of these greedy Visigoths who mortgaged MY future to pay for your self-indulgence? I got nothing but contempt for most of the generations that preceded me and are still alive on this planet. They left us jack shyt and took all the goodies for themselves. The Boomers and the Silents, too. Both of them helped themselves to OUR future.
I swear not a single one of you yuppie Boomers...or even Silents...would last TEN MINUTES in this world if you were OUR age! The fortysomethings of today have the worst deal of any generation ever.
LOL!! Do you really think you could have survived life in the 60s or 70s or even 80s?
Imagine the typical home with no microwave, only one television that the whole family had to sit around and watch together. ONE landline telephone for everyone in the home to share, very often only one vehicle for the whole family.
No cell phones, no video game players, dinners at restaurants were far less often than now. No cable tv, no internet, no computers, no iPhones. It was seriously a hard hard life.
One reason kids back then could move out was they were willing to find 2 or 3 other roommates to split the rent, they didn't need a big screen HDTV, cell phone service, internet, cable, and could live off ramen noodles and macaroni and cheese.
Today I've been told my mother has announced to our family she has disowned me. The reason: I asked my parents to begin paying back a $5,000. Loan I gave them over 6 years ago from my sons college fund. I asked for a meeting to discuss paying $5.00-$20.00 per week. My father is 68 and works over 50 hours per week, my mother doesn't work but goes to the casino weekly. I am so distraught that I am only worth that amount to her that she would rather walk away than discuss it. I also paid over several thousand dollars in bills for them and took them on an all-paid cruise 3 years ago, that she has suddenly forgotten. This is tearing apart our family.
Any advice
My father and his wife owed my brother $30,000. When my brother's 20 year old son died unexpectedly he went to my dad to help pay for the funeral and burial 2 days after he died. My father and his beosh wife insisted legal papers be drawn up by a lawyer so that my brother repay the amount 'borrowed' for his son's burial, because it would come out of her son's college fund. Now, my brother and I worked through college and paid for it ourselves and they owe him $30K. My brother walked out and they haven't spoken since. That sucks and is sick on a major level.
Contact an attorney and have your parents sign a document that they owe you the money and it's possible you can write it off on your taxes as an unpaid loan.
LOL!! Do you really think you could have survived life in the 60s or 70s or even 80s?
Imagine the typical home with no microwave, only one television that the whole family had to sit around and watch together. ONE landline telephone for everyone in the home to share, very often only one vehicle for the whole family.
No cell phones, no video game players, dinners at restaurants were far less often than now. No cable tv, no internet, no computers, no iPhones. It was seriously a hard hard life.
One reason kids back then could move out was they were willing to find 2 or 3 other roommates to split the rent, they didn't need a big screen HDTV, cell phone service, internet, cable, and could live off ramen noodles and macaroni and cheese.
And just WHAT THE HELL did you think WE kids did when WE moved out?
I moved into a BOARDING HOUSE...not EVEN my own apartment.
I had no cell phone, no video game player, no computer, no Internet.
My eating out consisted of going to the Firehouse Club (which I was a member of as a perk of my employment) where I could get cheap-assed meals, like a buck a plate.
Other than that, I had a used microwave in my room, a small fridge...oh, yeah, I DID have a TV (because I had bought it for myself when I still lived at home) and I had BARE-BONES CABLE...because, without it, I would have gotten NO RECEPTION WHATSOEVER.
I lived off Ramen Noodles for weeks on end. In fact, the only time I really GOT fresh food was at that Firehouse Club. That and the hot-dog lady who sold hotdogs in Center Square in town. She had been my next-door neighbor when I lived at home, and she used to give me free hot dogs.
I am 42. I survived the 70's and the 80's. I moved out in the 90's.
You freaking Yuppies came of age in a far-better job market. You exist now in an age where every wage agreement grandfathers YOUR wage, and makes MY generation bear the full brunt of global competition. You exist in an age where every tax lever is pulled to tilt the economic field TOWARDS your generation and AWAY from mine.
You exist in a time when YOUR safety net gets re-inforcements while MINE gets holes chopped in it.
YOU have every reasonable expectation to get back every cent in FICA taxes you ever paid. MY generation does not. You Boomers and your parents before you (the Silents) did EVERYTHING in your power to systematically screw my generation...you mortgaged our future to pay for your present over-indulgence.
You think FOR ONE MINUTE...that you could survive in this day and time...BEING MY AGE?? Good luck, buddy. I'll trade you any time. I'll take your cushy-secure setup over my uncertain future any day.
Everybody here who thinks that becasue I think I owe my parents for a lot and they just don't get it must be bigger asshats than I thought
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