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I'd been making and selling florals for a couple of years when my Dad died in 1999...A few weeks after Dad died, I received a call from a store owner in Oregon. I had just shipped a box of wreaths and swags and other floral items to her store.. She was worried about me because everything I sent her seemed so dark. (Normally, I used bright colors.)..I hadn't been paying attention because I was still in shock over losing my Dad. Guess I was a "zombie" right after he died. And my florals reflected my grief and huge loss.
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CA, so much sadness in your life. My heart just hurts when I hear of your losses. That's why I'm so glad you are able to get away with your friends and have some joy and happiness in your life. I'll bet your florals were gorgeous!!
One of these days I will get up to see you and Smilin! According to my Garmin, it's a 7 hour drive, and I haven't driven that long in decades! I would love to meet in Prescott as it's cooler, and come summer, I will be craving cooler when the thermometer reads 110*!
CA, so much sadness in your life. My heart just hurts when I hear of your losses. That's why I'm so glad you are able to get away with your friends and have some joy and happiness in your life. I'll bet your florals were gorgeous!!
One of these days I will get up to see you and Smilin! According to my Garmin, it's a 7 hour drive, and I haven't driven that long in decades! I would love to meet in Prescott as it's cooler, and come summer, I will be craving cooler when the thermometer reads 110*!
Thanks Marcy...I hope we can meet and have fun together one day soon!
I'm done debating on this subject, but I do object to reading in this forum the OP's ridicule of others' preferences when it comes to grief and mourning.
My only point is that how people grieve is their own business, and they do not deserve to be ridiculed for however they choose to do it.
I'm done debating on this subject, but I do object to reading in this forum the OP's ridicule of others' preferences when it comes to grief and mourning.
My only point is that how people grieve is their own business, and they do not deserve to be ridiculed for however they choose to do it.
I think maybe your missing my point , I wasnt talking about sadness or coping with loss.. I was talking about the old ways of dressing to supposedly mourn , it was more a fashion statement for the well off with black borders on notepaper.. lockets with dead peoples hair, brooches, rings. all over the top back then.. I apologise if my wording of the first post annoyed you so much... as it wasnt my intent.. I thought we would talk about all the different things they did over a hundred years ago like in the film the Others with photographs of the deceased and how to me they prolonged the sadness and surely must have made the person who thought they had to wear them quite depressed as well as others... http://www.tchevalier.com/fallingang...grnd/mourning/
Old traditions flex and change, but I see nothing wrong with wrapping yourself in black as a sort of symbolic shield against the outside world. I think more people should do it, instead of having to pick yourself up, brush yourself off and get back to a regular routine.
I bet many widows would be grateful for the luxury of a year of formal, structured mourning, in which they were given the time and space to fully grieve.
When I was growing up in the 1950's in a small American town that had many descendants of Sicilian immigrants, the women wore black morning upon the death of a family member. And, as I recall, the older ones would wear it for a year (widows for life), and the younger relatives for a month. These people were all working class folks, and their mourning clothes were very plain and could be worn to work or anywhere.
Where I live in Portugal there is a community of settled gypsies, and they follow a very complicated dress code of mourning, depending upon one's relationship with the deceased, I understand.
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