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This all sounds fine. I would wear the black belt and sheer black hose with it. If you wear skin-tone hose it might look a little bit more like you are going to work.
I would suggest skin tone hose,our skin is not black,nothing wrong with showing your legs with skin tone hose.
funeral is depressing,lets not make it worse
Wear what's comfortable - don't worry about the gossiping trolls.
When my DH died, I didn't wear black. We're in Florida and it was hot! I wore a light blue short-sleeve shirt with cotton navy blue pants. I told everyone, but especially the men, that they should dress in weather appropriate clothes - no suits or ties needed. And does anyone really wear pantyhose anymore?
I don't think it showed any disrespect to my DH for the mourners to be comfortable. I knew what was in my heart, and I am confident my DH also knew my heart ached for him regardless of how I dressed.
And yes- it was a full funeral mass held in the church. The walls didn't shake and Jesus didn't fall off the cross when we entered the church. So I'm guessing it was ok.
At my father's and brother's funerals, I don't remember noticing what anyone wore. I just noticed that they had come. (Mom died during the COVID shutdown so we didn't get to do a funeral except for a few family members at the grave.)
A friend's mother passed away a couple months back. She wanted people to wear something colorful so there was a plethora of outfits in different colors. Nothing very formal. I wore a pink shirt with black pants.
I have a funeral to attend on Wednesday. A former colleague who survived one form of cancer only to succumb to a second. She also just retired at the end of 2021. I am wearing black pants and a tunic length white shirt to this. Minimal jewelry.
To the OP, I think your option sounds fine. Be comfortable.
What's the appropriate color for a funeral. I know there's basic black but how about charcoal grey? Dark navy? I've been googling and some say for close family members (spouse, parents, children, etc) the only acceptable color (unless specifically told otherwise i.e. a person last wishes) is black. And only black. Thoughts??
What's the appropriate color for a funeral. I know there's basic black but how about charcoal grey? Dark navy? I've been googling and some say for close family members (spouse, parents, children, etc) the only acceptable color (unless specifically told otherwise i.e. a person last wishes) is black. And only black. Thoughts??
I think any muted color or print would be fine. I have a standard outfit, long black skirt, cowboy boots, white shirt, black blazer.
I really do think that people should put out a "dress code" of some sort at this point. So often, people prefer attendees to dress to "celebrate" the life of the person as opposed to wearing dark colors to grieve, which I actually prefer (the celebratory part).
I really do think that people should put out a "dress code" of some sort at this point. So often, people prefer attendees to dress to "celebrate" the life of the person as opposed to wearing dark colors to grieve, which I actually prefer (the celebratory part).
That's actually an interesting idea! It's done for weddings all the time (black tie, cocktail, semi-formal, etc.), so why not for funerals?
I am retired and have outgrown my good work clothes. I have had several memorial services at church and a few funerals. I always wore black slacks and a white top with black and white jewelry or silver jewelry. Since I outgrew and donated my good clothes, I made it a point to go shopping recently so I had an outfit to wear to memorial services or funerals. So I got a pair of black dress slacks and a black and white tunic, both in a size now that fits me.
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I am wearing black pants and a tunic length white shirt to this. Minimal jewelry. 
